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Thanks Tzoya,
It was very interesting..I wonder if the outcome would be better for girls if they had intensive therapy at young age instead of getting diagnosed later? I sure hope that it will be better for Sarah..we have never seen regression in her..middle school really scares me now! Oh My Gosh! Some of these scenarios are identical to my daughters experiences! My heart is racing after reading that! I felt like I was reading about my daughter! BELLS! BELLS! BELLS! This just affirms some gut feelings I have had. But, couldn't ever really feel comfortable with because they are so different than with my son. Right down to the math deficits and the not turning in the home work because she is scared to walk to the front of the class. Not doing alot of things because she does not understand when the appropriate time is. Wow! Thanks Tzoya!That was a great article. Lots to think about. Thanks so much for sharing.
Bullet,
I am sorry that school was so horrible and cant imagine going through that even though I have many aspie traits myself I never was bullied...I just wonder what would help my dd through this? We did a playgroup for 2 years to address social skills and how to deal with different aspects of peers but it was all geared for <6 years old. My heart breaks thinking this will be her future no matter what we did to help her. I do know though that here the school has a zero tolerance rule for bullying and I will do everything I can to make sure someone is looking after her as much as possible. The article made me realize that even though she is doing well now it is no promise she will do well later on ..the fact that the girls were less like to marry was really hard to read..I am looking for an angle that she will do better than this.
ShelleyR, with the greatest of respect all the intensive therapy in the world wouldn't have helped against the bullies who mocked me for wanting to read a book instead of gossiping. It wouldn't have prevented the one lad who did speak to me (as a friend) not speaking to me in front of his friends, or having to hear people say things like "if I was her I'd kill myself". What it would have taught me if I'd have put down that book and join in is that it's perfectly ok to be a part of a group that bullies anyone with a different outlook on life and that is something I'm very pleased I didn't do. I was lucky when I started the VI form (age 16 - 18) that I was approached by a group who were nice and who didn't know of my reputation and for a year I was happy to be in a group that didn't bitch or gossip or sneer at people and though I usually just spoke to one person at a time it did help with my confidence to know that not everyone seemed to view me as a monster
Regarding the marriage, before I met my husband I had been out with one other lad for nine weeks just before him. There were no dates throughout secondary school or sixth form. I remember my dad telling me that I shouldn't expect it to last, that I was like a 12 year old besotted with her 2nd boyfriend (I was 18). I ignored him. My husband and myself have been together for over 13 years. In less than three weeks we will celebrate our tenth wedding anniversary. Statistics do not apply to everyone and even if your daughter does not get married, it doesn't mean she won't be happy.
Thanks Bullet:)
She is so beautiful that I always felt that marrying would be the least thing to worry about..I cringe at the thought that someone will be mean to her in anyway!