my son has no desire to other kids. he is okey being around them but he wont play or inter act with them. also at play ground he only do slide over and over or he just sit ther and do nothing i dont know if it gets better when his speech get better or i need to work on that. does any one recommend regular daycare for or kids or you think its going to push them back if tipical kids dont coaporat with them?
Lili,
This is exactly how Sarah was up until this summer. She just wanted to do her own thing and I was exhausted prompting her like crazy and making her follow other kids and talk to them but realized she stopped engaging them the moment I stopped prompting her. I would try to get him to engage with you though instead of doing his own thing over and over..make him respond to you by eye contact or verbally before he is able to go down slide..or be at the bottom to greet him when he comes down and prompt eye contact with lots of praise:) The swing do the same way..get in front of the swing and hold him up high..dont let go till he looks at you and responds..then release and praise like crazy:) Model for him what he is doing and teach him to notice the surroundings:trees, birds, squirrels..rocks, sticks..bugs..ect..Every moment is a teaching moment:)
Sarah was in a ABA playgroup for over 2 years and it was really good at rewarding all efforts on her part and the part of the nt kids involved to engage her...she is just now being more assertive with other kids and truely more interested in them..she just turned 7 years old on friday. I think the social for her came in when her language and speech progressed..dont worry so much..have him with typical peers as much as you can as they do pick up things around them but no way can you force them to want to be with them..it has to come internally. IMHO:) Good luck:)
We still have this issue with Mason and he has been in school since he was 3. He just doesn't have any desire to do things with other kids. He is much better with older kids...he loves all of my 13 year olds friends, and says hi to them when they come over...has even started to talk to them more, tell them about things he is doing.
Mason's thing is the swing...when we go to the playground he will only do that...I can prompt him to come and join us on other activities but that only lasts a short time and he is back to the swing. I'm hoping that this year he will learn to enjoy other things bcuz the school he is starting this fall doesn't have swings! I'm thinking it might be a problem for him for awhile, but hopefully he will learn that the other things can be just as fun.
I agree with Shelley that it can't be pushed...prompt as much as you can and hopefully it will be something that will just start happening for our kids.
Good luck!
My son started a 4 hour a day outdoor nursery school when he was 2 and he told the other kids to go away if they got too close. He started to show interest in kids at age 3 -- basically when he was ready, not as a result of interventions (we didn't even know he was on the spectrum until age 7). I don't think it was connected with his language development. I think he just learned to be more comfortable around other kids. At first I think he was afraid they would push or touch him (ie sensory related).
Your child is an individual and may not follow the same developmental path as mine. However, in general, I think it's good to get autistic kids in a group setting a few hours a day, preferably with an adult who is willing to encourage and support social interaction.
Good luck with everything.