HELP !Super Stimmy with Gran’s Visiting | Autism PDD
Ever since my parents came on Thursday- R has been SUPER stimmy - do you all think he is stressed out - what can I do to reduce his stress?
This whole weekend has passed in his stimming
His gramps are going to be here for 4 months and I really thought that their visit would help R but he seems to be running around stimming right since he saw them
I am planning on doing some sensory type activities with him today evening today to see if it calms him down as he seems to be very sensory seeking right now as well
Just wanted to add that my parents are just AWESOME grandparents and my niece and nephew ADORE them - in many ways I think- my dad is a natural floortimer
Also wanted to add that R usually tolerates visitors/change quite well though maybe with most visitors he knows that they leave in one or two days - while the gramps come for longer trips as both mine and DH's parents dote on R !Plus R is possessive about me and does not like me to give too much attention to others
I would LOVE suggestions on reducing his stress
Help Please !!!!!!!!!!
I don't have much suggestion for you. My DS does act out more and is more restless when the Grans come to visit too. Actually, I limit how much they come because it seems to cause a lot more issues, with behavior and they not knowing the right way to address things seems to cause escalation of negative behaviors. Just want to let you know, I have been there. He might settle down after a while. Good luck.
Concernedpa.
Hi!! My son was like he was on speed when we had house guests the first few times
...He would be in constant motion, flapping, tapping everything, screeching, you name the stim, and he was doing it. I'm sure it was because of numerous reasons..He wasn't used to all the noise (we had 8 guests stay over), excitement and happiness, and just a break in his usual routine. He used to hide from company at first, when he was very little (2)...As he got older, his behavior became not so reclusive, but stimmy.
NOw at 6, he does better, but mostly kind of ignores them. He may come up and give a cute smile, but that's about it.
Give it a few days, he will probably adjust to the crowd, and enjoy them. Next time it will be easier
nakama
Perhaps hes excited to see them but just cant verbalize it? I believe if I remember correctly that R isnt verbal yet, but are you using PECS or anything with him? Maybe you can find a way for him to communicate his excitement (ie prompting him to give them deep pressure hugs)?Also wanted to ask - what kind of equation does your ASD child have with grandparents I was going to sy the sme thing . Perhaps your son is excited and happy is grand parents are there. He might not be stressed in a bad way. My daughter hand flaps and squeels when she is excited and happy as well. she is almost non verbal. Liz
Kajoli,
I defi think that Rohan is super excited to see his grandparents and since he can't verbally express it, he is showing that excietment by stimming....
My dd is the same with my parents - well, my parents were her primary caretakers for the first 18 mos of her life while I was busy enjoying work... so maybe she bonds with them naturally but she behaves the same way with my hubby's parents.. she is super excited to see dh's dad (not so much his mom!.. hmm....
Thanks so much y'all
Actually I am little less despondent today - as R was still stimmy but not SUper Stimmy
I am pretty sure he is not happy to see them - as he keeps trying to face away from them or pushing me into a room so that I and he are alone and then shut the door behind us - LOL
But I am hopeful for the future - my Dad is just great with kids in general - and in a very non intrusive way and my mum is just a fun person though she is being in his face which he does not like at all
It sounds like he's telling you exactly what he needs when he's pushing you into a room to be alone with you. He probably needs alone time with you everyday until he gets adjusted to his house guests. Maybe you could schedule the time for him on a pecs chart so he knows when his Mommy and Me time is coming up. When you're together you can work on his sensory stuff.
Ooooh MamaJot that's a REALLY good idea...was thinking along the same lines, but the chart - now that is Genius. Great ideas - thank you all so much IMHO - I think he doesn't want to share you. Maybe do something special just for him and have a little buddy talk ...? My ds gets along REALLY well with my folks, but not as well with dh's mom. She is overly aggressive about trying to get him to do stuff with her while my dad and stepmom are more mellow about it. Just tell the folks to hang out and not over do it with him and do some fun stuff and who knows he might decide he wants to help or do it too. Glad to hear he is already calming down and getting used to the change! Good signCopyright Autism-PDD.net