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Unfortunately I have been in the same situation with a 5 year old. Payne is now 7 and bigger. His outbursts can be VERY destructive, assaultive and verbally combative. He was hospitalized for 2 weeks last year b/c of him threatening and being assaultive. We were told to lock him in his room until we were comfortable with him being able to wonder through the house. He is on Risperdal - and that has helped tremendously, but drugs aren't everything. We still have to monitor his activities...growth spurts and colds/flu throw him out of whack. We have to address everything IMMEDIATELY or it DOES get out of hand VERY quickly. He starts by just being annoying (getting in people's faces, etc) then poking (for attention) then play hitting / rough housing and then punching....then bruising is immanent. He gets violent with adults first and then animals and then other kids seems to be the method....Make sure you DOCUMENT his activities. I would also have the school do a FBA and BIP for his IEP ASAP~!

We have tried to walk away but he would just follow my dh and keep going. my dh has even went into the basement and locked the door and DS would just go to the door and kick it pound it whatever he can until my dh gets even madder running up the stairs and the ds finally runs and hides.
 
I printed out somethings on behavior modification so am hoping to get DH to look and read.. maybe I will read it to him
 
K's behavior is getting worse. its basically when he doenst get his way and is worse with my husband. He kicks, hits slams doors, throws things, and throws them at us. The final point came tonight when he told my husband that when he was sleeping he was going to kill him. I was in shock.  My husband is not one to deal with things in a calm manor, he thinks spankings are the best.. I do not..(this causes alot of stress between the 2 of us) 
 
I do not want to have to put him on any meds that is the last thing I want to do, but I am so afraid for his safety and that of my husband and I. (he does not get this aggresive with his 7 yr old sister nor 4 yr old brth and told them he was sorry for scaring them.
 
When he gets in these melt downs nothing seems to work, if its just me that he is home with and has this meltdown, i can sometimes switch the topic to something funny and it "may" work.  He just really butts heads with my husband who is very strong headed himself.
 
I am leaving to go out of town next week (the first time ever leaving my kids and my husb) and I now scared to death after what i witnessed tonight.
 
I will take any suggestions and i am sorry this is so long

 First We talk about us Ignoring him(when he is calm),we tell him what will happen,and then when he is starting to go off we say,"when you calm down we will give you attention".and then walk away,and I dont speak to him again until he calms down.

Our ds isn't breaking things ,but he just hasn't thought of that yet,we are hoping to get a handle on his behaviour before it gets to bad.

God bless,((HUGS)),Linda

Ps:I wont leave dh alone with my two,Ds knows he can push his buttons.

If these are meltdowns and not misbehavior, a spanking isn't going to help.  At our house, it's easier for me to stay calm and handle our son when he's having or getting close to a meltdown, so it's not a job me and my husband divide 50-50... 

Here are some online resources that have helped me and many other parents on this board in dealing with meltdown issues.  Ignore the yellow highlighting and let me know if a link doesn't work.

http://www.jambav.com/modules/specialneeds/specialneeds.php? id=8 - Temper Tantrum Report (for documenting and analyzing meltdowns)

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv -ppiep&msg=2462.1&  an article called "Thoughtful Response to Agitation, Escalation and Meltdowns in Children with Autism Spectrum Disorders." 

http://www.isec2005.org.uk/isec/abstracts/papers_m/myles_b.s html - "The Cycle of Tantrums, Rage, and Meltdowns in Children and Youth with Asperger Syndrome, High-Functioning Autism, and Related Disabilities" which is an article by Professor Brenda Smith Myles, with a list of 7 strategies you can use in the rumbling stage (ie agitation and escalation towards a meltdown/rage).

http://www.autism-pdd.net/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=16187&am p;am p;KW=inside+scoop - " 'Meltdowns':  The inside scoop (or rant)" which is a popular topic on our forum started by Stickboy26.

Good luck with everything.

 


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