I won a battle!!!!!!!! | Autism PDD
Let me start out with a little backround info, my son is in 5th grade and goes to an ebd program
(looking into autism program) I had a great relationship with the staff there untill the middle of last year, the program director and his teacher got new placements within 2 weeks of each other. His new teacher is a real pill, she fights everything I say or request, I've caught her in several lies as well. Right now he is in summer school and it's pretty low key, there only there for about 4 hours a day, my son has been doing excellent, he's been coming home with100% everyday. Last week he did have one bad day, but they had caused his anxiety to be sky high so I felt it was more there fault then his, but what do you do? They had 2 fun field trips planned this summer and do to his 1 bad day they took the first one away from him although his advocate and I fought for otherwise. Yesterday he came home with another 100% but with a note saying he would not be able to go on the second field trip today because he ran from staff at bus time. His behavoir was not correct but to my knowledge it's the only negitive behavoir he has done, so I called the teacher and argued about the reason, to make things kinda short, I caught her in another lie and demanded that my son goes on the field trip, I feel he has worked really hard on behaving good at school and it would give him the wrong messege if he was not able to go. I had to explain to her that he deserves an reward for his good behavoir too, and that it's not possible for him to get 100% for the whole day if he was in fact being aggressive in school, I asked her why these kids with special needs are expected to do better than a "normal" kid? Anyway in the end I got them to change their mind and let him go!
I'm glad they listened to you!Way to go Mom, I know my son works well with a positive behavior plan, for us its the only way to go. And I agree why do they expect our kids to be better behaved than the NT children? I have gone to Battle "thats what I call it" several times through elementary School, because the Principal just don"t get the Asperger thing. I also have a problem with the way our school separates children with different needs. If you go into our Tag classroom " Talented and Gifted ' The children are told they are special and how wonderful they are, if they forget a pencil its ok to go get one because they are special, but go into our resource classroom and they are told they need to work harder and be at school everyday and have all their materials, like they are lazy and if they forget to bring something to class they are unprepared. It really pisses me off. Keep up the good fight for your child.
Way to go for standing up for your son. Some people just don't understand and it ticks me off also. They are going to have their bad days also. We have them.
I also let her know that I have 2 to 3 bad days a week!!
With our son, and I'm sure this is like this for a lot of ASD kids, I've made the school stop using those special things for punishment! I told them if they need to punish it needs to be immediately for that action. There is no way Mason would understand that days or weeks later he doesn't get to participate in something because of what happened awhile ago! IMHO, I don't see how that kind of punishment would work with most children, ASD or otherwise!
Way to stay strong, I'm glad you won that battle!!
good job! I think they definatly were wrong to take that away, everyone has their days, but thats a pretty serious punishment for something relativly mild.They should have sat him down and explianed why that could be unsafe, running away from the staff like that, plain and simple. He deserves the trip.
Great job. Taking away those field trips was like punishing him for having the disability. It was not manipulative misbehavior. A diabetic has a reaction to low blood sugar, and a child with autism has a reaction to overstimulation and other aspects of his environment. This reaction can be anxiety, elopement, etc. If running away from staff is a persistent problem, make sure it's addressed on the IEP and that the school has a crisis plan. It can be a real safety issue.
Keep up the good work advocating for your child.
Good job Supermom97.......our kids need to be rewarded for their good behavior.....them trying to take away his field trips sounds too harsh
When he ran from the bus driver....they could have talked to him and written a social story to help him understand why he can't do that....Quinn has done that and it was handled with a social story and me talking to him and reiterating why he can't do that.
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