i can totally understand your pain, my son was locked in a closet with magnetic locks in first grade. I found the room and it turned ugly real fast, I removed him from that school that instant. When I tried to get the police, news, child protection anyone that is suppose to help they turned on me. My layer said since he had suffered from sexuall abuse when he was younger that there was nothing I could really do about it, it would be too hard to prove emotional harm. I also don't have the money to hire an educational laywer. NObody would help, and they wonder why he doesn't trust adults. It's 4 years later and I still want to do something it makes me feel like I failed at protecting him. As a teacher and a mom I am horrified by what I have read today.
All of you need to get to the bottom of this for you children.
These people have no business being in the schools system and working
with children. They are suppose to be protecting and teaching
them not doing horrible things to them.
Principals and administration staff are there all summer. Please don't hesitate to contact them.
Good luck and keep us posted.
I am so sad right now. This is my biggest fear.
You CAN contact the school where it happened NOW. The District Office staff is 12 month staff. The Superintendent is whom you need to contact and his office is open NOW. I might contact a lawyer, too.be careful. eric could be anyone in that school, even the janitor. i think this needs to be reported to the police. i don't think a 4 year old could make this up
& you have physical evidence that something is wrong. eric might be giving your son a fake name, so a little undercover investigation might need to take place to catch him.
How old was your son?
When my son was in Kindergarten, he hated it and they hated him. They didn't know how to handle him. He got punished for everything he did. NO "teaching" the right behaviors or responses to things--ever! He got lunch taken away and he was in a room with the SLP alone to eat--by himself. Recess taken away also.
I didn't know as much then, like what I do now! Luckily he got "accepted" to attend the other school. We loved it there this past year! They are wonderful!! Everything based on rewards. The key to my son's heart!!!!
At the beginning of this year, someone(I don't even know!) told me that she heard from one of the mom's that helped out in Jacob's (old school) class that they were not nice to him. I felt soooo bad!! I was never able to help in his class because I have a younger child also. It's just great that strangers have even heard of my son!!!!!
I am so sorry your son experienced this, but I'm glad he was finally able to tell you so something can be done. Wishing you all the best.So sorry you are having to go through this! I'm too glad that he is able to tell you now and something can be done about it! Take care.
OMG!! SOOOOOOOO sorry u and him had to go thru that!!!! I would kill her!!! Please please do something about it!!! This is every mother's worst nightmare!!!
I would let the school know asap..it is so good he could communicate this and makes you wonder how many went through this so called teacher and were mistreated too:(
Best of luck and I hope she gets canned!
I had to come here tonight and share the most devastating news. Tonight while putting my little guy to bed we remeinising about his past school experiences and his old teachers.
Well when we got to one teacher in particular, he told me the shock of my life. He explained in great detail how abusive the teacher had been to him.
He told me that she had pulled his hair,grabbed his wrist, refused to let him play with other children at lunch, and refused "all of the children who didn't listen to her" snack.
I was so hurt I cried
It just breaks my heart to know that there are sick people out there harming these children. And have the audacity to call themselves "teachers." At the time Ethan had a very limited speech and couldn't tell me what was happening. I always knew something wasn't right but I just couldn't prove it. Everything is so clear now-why he was so depressed and withdrawn. I thought it was the strattera but all the while he was being mistreated. I am not saying it was all because of the medication but I know that abusive teacher played a major role in his behavior. Oh! I am just destroyed. I want to get that woman so badly for what she has done. What makes me sick is how many other kids are going to face what she has done to my son. I am definitely going to call the school and let them know. I wish I could pursue this in court but all I have is my son's word against her's. If your child is in a public school or any school for that matter, please watch them. Ask them questions and more importantly, if you suspect something is wrong do as much as you can to get to the bottom of it. School is a place where children go to learn, grow, make mistakes, and develop at there own pace. It is not a race nor a competition. Thank for letting me vent. I just can't believe this but I am so proud of him for telling me. This is a major step for him. [QUOTE=lindsey0818]First let me apologize for this happening but I just found the perfect thread hope to get help quick, Damian just told me while i was giving him a bath his bottom hurts because eric touched it. He says he is at his school. He has been complainig his tummy hurts and his bottom is red Im not sure what to do first.[/QUOTE] OMG!! You better find out what happened!! First--who is Eric? A child or teacher/aide? What part of his bottom is red? The actually opening? Or the buttocks? If he was being abused---I would think he would have cracks and bleeding with LOTS of pain. My son has a red opening all the time-----he's allergic to something. That is one of the main signs of a food-type allergy. Don't wait--find out tomorrow!! I'm so sorry---what a shock! I wish we could protect our kids from everything!! I think it is really important for your kids they see you go above and beyond to help them. They are telling the hardest thing to tell a parent, and they alone are helpless. Please don't stop until everything is resolved. I will pray,pray,pray for everyone and our precious kids. This is so ...words can't even describe. Okay, I just want to play the devil's advocate here. First I need to say that I am sorry that ANYONE has had to go through something like that. A child should never have to go through any type of abuse from anyone, but particularly someone who is entrusted to take care of him/her. That being said - before you go off the deep end, I would somehow make sure this is accurate. Take a deep breath, calm down before you call anyone. Maybe call an advocate or lawyer first. You want to make sure you are not asking leading questions of your child. Perhaps call social services and have them come talk to your son. You will ruin the case if you ask your child too many leading questions. If social services is to come out - you need to ask for someone who has experience in talking to kids on the spectrum. Otherwise, you may get a newbie who will easily get frustrated with questioning our kids. You also need to ask yourself how much you want to go through and how much you want your child to go through. It is NOT fun to go through this type of investigation. I want to say that I am WHOLLY in favor of getting people like this out of the system and being investigated and charged is usually the only way to do that. However, it is often more punishing to the victims, unfortunately. There is a chance that the child misunderstood what was going on or interpreted it wrong. I am NOT saying this is the case - just putting that out there as a possibility. My son sees everything in black and white and people are either "mean" or "nice". There is no in-between when it comes to behaviors or actions either. There have been numerous times he has said someone is mean when all they did was try to wipe something off his face! Again, I'm not saying this is the case here - just pointing out that you should take things slower and not jump down anyone's throats immediately. It is heartbreaking that abuses like this occur every day to our kids and if you do decide to do something about it - more power to you! Just proceed slowly and watch your back... Best of luck to you! I am sorry if your son has been abused and if you find out it is accurate, I would persue action. When I was in 2nd grade, I had a teacher (in Catholic school!)....eww just thinking about her is making me ill....who was definitely inappropriate and probably abusive. She would touch students in a manner that seemed perverse, her "treat" for those who were good was to massage her back (ewww! I was good a lot and got to do this....back then it seemed okay...I mean the teacher was in charge and everyone was jealous of the good one who got all her attention), she kept the door closed and the window blind down all the time, and she had a grab bag for good behavior that contained little toys, 's and 's, and the big prize- a pass to come spend the day with her at her house (just you and her).....fortunately I never got that....but now I wonder what she did with the kids who did go to her house. She also had an explosive temper and would throw erasers at kids and yell a lot. She grabbed you by the arm and yanked you back to where you should be if you wondered out of line. Anyway, she was sick...I know that now but back then I never told my mom because I thought "she is my teacher, she has to be good, she has to do the right thing." Now as a parent I am ultra alert and do not trust people "just because". I worry like crazy about Ali. I will keep you in my prayers and I hope your son is okay! We had a nun who used to do "upside-down milk shakes". This involved picking up a child by their ankles, turning them upside down and shaking them. Seriously! One child, who got in trouble a lot, started using reverse psychology on her (he was only in 3rd grade - what a little smartie!) and started asking her to give him one. Finally, she stopped using that as a punishment for him because he pretended to like it (well, maybe he did, I don't know!). There was also a paddle, rulers on the knuckles, kneeling all day (that was my least favorite), standing all day (this was one teacher's punishment for getting caught yawning). This was about 25-30 years ago, but still! In high school, one priest would throw erasers at someone if they were "napping". He should have been a pro baseball player as I don't ever recall him missing. However, in high school - mostly we had to write lines or had detention. Anna - that nun sounds very creepy. I am hopeful that all schools have changed. Anyway, I digress from the original subject and the original poster - this is a very serious situation and I hope it gets resolved soon for you. How awful to go through for everyone! Im not sure if eric is a student or an aide, I want to go to the school and go balistic if it is a student how is it possible for him to do this, obviously he isnt being supervised. His little opening was red and swollen last night not so bad this morning, but im taking him to the doctor/therapist and they said they will handle notifying the school, for me to try to keep us calm. His doctor is out today but we are going to call her in she knows Damian and she knows how to speak with him. I just hope for that schools sake they find nothing happen and Damian is just getting things confused, but it all adds up now ever since he started this school in june he has been acting very funny, and saying things i find odd. Also the only name i can get out of him about school is eric, at first i thought nothing of it because he really sticks with one friend but now it is making sense. Forgot to add i would really question what he is saying except for the fact the he has been bringing home snacks sayis "eric" gave them to him, and he told me what happened without me asking. I know he will agree to just about anything someone asks him so i didnt question him but one time and only said, What happen to you bottom, and he told me "eric hurt it his hand" then he says eric has a knife he kill me. Where the heck does a 4 yr old come up with he kill me. Im trying to stay calm and do the right thing but my gut is telling me he is telling the truth and im so angry. all sort of alarm bells are going off in my head too hope its all okay
I cant understand how u must feel, however if it makes u feel any better between kindergarden and second grade i went to 3 different elemntary schools. Apparently I was a handful, they could not deal with me so every year i had to go somewhere else. I have an excellent memory of how things look, events that have transpired (i use the gulf war in 1990 as the reference point in time for everything that has occured prior to my teen years, ususuall but i need a relative point in time and that easiest, my first memory of international events, and facinated me) Anyways... I cant remeber however much of how I was like, I always thought I was nice, quiet, but apparently I was satans spawn, only recently, while reflecting deep into my past have i realized all the seemingly bad things i did when i was little, breaks my heart that because i acted so bizzar socially, back then i was always in trouble, teachers (some) hated me, classmates disliked me. Its soo terrible to think that parents would not let their kids play with me. I feel like i brought it upon myself, b4 I understood what was wrong.
More rambling aside... because of this miss understanding, those teachers, students and other parents seeing us though their eyes, and at least my compelte inability back then to see how i was through their eyes so to speak, i came off as strange and bad, and their behavior towards me reflected it. Now their is more understanding about autism, but still, kids these days, probably because of the same probelm that i had at their age, do stuff to get that negative reaction, that will scar them for life, curse my memory, but im glad to have it.
If something is happening, i hope u can get to the bottom of it, and make the ppl who did your child wrong regret ever doing such horrible things, however, its possible, as seeing the world through my eyes at least at that age, that your child miss interpreted the situation, like snoopywoman said, and due to lack of communication skills maby said things happened that were more severe then they really were. I know I missinterpreted both others and how others saw me, I feel i had a good childhood, but am heartbroken recently because i put the peices together and remembered after almost 2 decades why things happened, it hurts.
I wish ya luck, and sorry for the rambling, ive had this stuff brewing in my head for weeks now, first time ive discussed it, hope it was to serve a purpose on your topic tho.
My daughter was picked on in pre-k in FL by a bully at age 4 yrs. She could not talk at the time. She told me with body lang.. She would fall to the ground and scream. I talked to her teachers and they told me she was falling down the stairs. That was 1/2 the case. The big bully, who was 4 inches taller than the whole class was knocking her down the stairs. He chipped 2 of her baby teeth. It took me 6 months to figure out about the chipped teeth. She kept opening her mouth and showing me but I didn't understand. Anyways, the same bully pushed her down at the play ground. She snapped and hit him in the head with a log. I'm picking my daughter up at pre-k and the bully said something about my daughter hitting him. I looked at the for 5 mins and he started to shake. She never had a problem with him again. I told her that he would end up in jail some day and not to worry. That was 2 yrs ago.
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