my son Dylan | Autism PDD

He doesnt have autism ..They thought he may but, after testing himand removing her from the equation he came around and does well ..Now she says he Is saying he wants to kill himself and ettccc..that Is not typical of him .He does have some mental Issues but, we dont know the extent of them ..we do know whaen she goes away for awhile and doesnt come around he gets better and then she makes him do these visits and he becomes nervous ,angry and just doesnt act himself ..The judge didnt care about any of this ..she Is bi polar refuses to be medicated and she has been arrested for domestic violence herself and It doesnt matter ..It comes down to my husband didnt let her have a week visit like the judge ordered and he was mad ..We dont know what to do .Now they are there for 3 weeks .this is week one in and he wants to die he says he hates it there and he is so miserable ....

I am confused here. First you talk about your wife..then your husband....and now you say that you dont' have a child that is on the spectrum? Why did you come to a forum about autism if you don't have a child who is Autistic?

Karrie

Me and my new wife were having alot of issues with our younger kid.We got him Into therapy and we got alot from It and tried It and things were starting to go great .Now he IS at his mothers in NC and she IS saying he wants to kill himself and wants to jump off bridges ..She also is supposed to allow the boys to talk to us so we called 3 minutes early according to her phone and starting first thing he needs medicine why don't u guys have him medicated .well we did and she called and called all the dr's until they would not talk to anymore or just tried to stay away from here ..After my husband told he to put her foot down and be there mothere and try some other things first until we can get him in wherere they went before .but she wants it to be there with a dr of her findind.only problem kids see her maybe 7 weeks a yr if that and she has been kicked out of so many places due to her mental issues

What can we do .We need therapy and so do they this is wrong .We went to court and proved she was unstable and the judge said she needed morales and her sex life is messed up but he still allowed those boys a visist to a home where the boyfriend that beets her comes and goes and her brother comes over high on coccaine and other drugs and then we get them and we know they need help .they come home acting like different kids hitting and awful lanuagae and behavorial problems and then they act out things they see there ...We need help as much as anyone knows about or can find out about ......the judge called my husband a dictator because he didnt send them for spring break because the bf had just beat her and her other daughter and she has no custody of her older kid or my two..please if anyone knows anything help me [QUOTE=abates]Me and my new wife were having alot of issues with our younger kid.We got him Into therapy and we got alot from It and tried It and things were starting to go great .Now he IS at his mothers in NC and she IS saying he wants to kill himself and wants to jump off bridges ..She also is supposed to allow the boys to talk to us so we called 3 minutes early according to her phone and starting first thing he needs medicine why don't u guys have him medicated .well we did and she called and called all the dr's until they would not talk to anymore or just tried to stay away from here ..After my husband told he to put her foot down and be there mothere and try some other things first until we can get him in wherere they went before .but she wants it to be there with a dr of her findind.only problem kids see her maybe 7 weeks a yr if that and she has been kicked out of so many places due to her mental issues

Does the child have autism?

Bonnie Sayers, who runs the Autism section at Bella Online, is a divorced mother of two children, at least one of whom is autistic. She has a lot of experience with visitation issues for children on the autism spectrum, and succeeded in court-ordered supervision for when the children visited their father. Here is an article she wrote on it. There are probably other resources on her site, and you might be able to contact her directly.

http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art36031.asp

Good luck with everything.

I came here because my ex wife told everyone he was autistic..So we all believed never questioned her .After the divorce I took him and had him tested and said he didn't have that but, he was expressing some mental behaviours that werent normal ..So excuse me If I got On the wrong page ..I am just looking for help for my kid and do what It takes to protect him and get him where he needs to be ... I was trying to give some history about the ex wife and me ....Sry to have bothered you ...Just thought i may find someone who had something I could do to get my sons the therapy they need .......

I did get some very resourceful information from another memeber who wasn't so rude .. I hope you find something to help your son, sounds like hes having a really rough time Hi abates:

I appologize to you about the member who was nasty to you. As you're trying to find help for your child and need some answers. Is there anyway you can take this child? You need to contact your mental health agency in your area. They'll have some answers for you. Here in maryland there is a hospital for children who have these problems: Sheppard Pratt. You may want to check in your area. I hope this will be some help for you.

the big bad woolfHow old are the children? Sounds like a really tough situation.My son has said "i hate myself" a few times and when he said it he seemed troubled and when asked where he heard that he said tv. He did seem stressed by something at the time tho i couldnt put my finger on and began stimming on my elbow.

The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy has an online therapist locator service, for US, Canada, and overseas. I don't have any personal experience with them, but here's the address:

http://www.aamft.org/TherapistLocator/index.asp

My autistic son has been known to say "I don't want to live anymore." For him it was not a death wish, but a phrase he used to communicate his desire to get out of an intolerable classroom situation. It was "scripting" or "delayed echolalia" -- a phrase he has heard and repeated with only partial comprehension. Even if he did not mean it, it was a cry for help that we had to take seriously. We had to do our best to prevent him from regularly finding himself in classroom situations that were beyond his capacity to cope with. He needed to be able to take a break when overwhelmed.

It's good that you're taking your child seriously. We at the autism forum are a helpful group of people, but we probably don't have the expertise you need in this area. You might try to call a suicide hotline. Check the front of your phone book or go to this listing:

http://suicidehotlines.com/

You might also want to read this info sheet on children and suicide from the Canadian Centre for Suicide Prevention:

http://www.suicideinfo.ca/csp/assets/alert39.pdf

Good luck with everything. I hope your lawyer can help you find a better solution for the custodial issues.

The boys are 6 and 4 ..I did have them In therapy and she didn't talk or see them for several months ..During those months the boys showed great Inprovement but, since we went to court they said that happened before the order was entered and couldn't be heard ..The judge that is hearing this case really isn't acting like he wants what is best for them ..I wonder If you can appeal a dicission about a judgement? I also wonder how to find a family therapist for all of us .After this visit I am sure they are going to need to see one ..The older one is the one who says he wants to die .How sad for him to feel that way because of this ..It breaks my heart and I dont have any clue what to do ...I would go to jail but, she would still get the boys while I was there so that isn't a fix either ..I have hired a PI and that makes me feel alittle better .

I was not intending to be "NASTY" as woolf has said. I honestly was confused and that was the reason I asked the questions that I asked. I apologize if I offended anyone. I certainly didn't mean it. I am a very blunt person when asking questions but by no means did I intend to offend anyone or make anyone feel unwelcome. I do hope you get some kind of help.

Karrie