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Babysitter? What's that?
Babysitter's and my son do not go hand in hand. I haven't had anyone other than my mom keep him in close to 8 years and he's 11 now. No matter how I have tried to prepare people for a meltdown, when it actually comes, they're ready to flee. My mom, bless her, knows exactly what to do with him. If it wasn't for her, DH and I would never get out of the house by ourselves. Even though, there are times she can barely get around, she tries to keep him for a a night each month. Even if we don't have the money to go out, it's still nice to be able to be alone with DH.
ya makes me wonder i was attatched to my mom more then anybody else also around that age and older, i dont know why her probably because she was always around or i always went with her dad was always working and she was a house mom.I don't leave my son with sitters. I did once and I came home to my house DESTROYED. Unless they are trained...like a respite worker...it doesn't happen! What's a babysitter? We had one watch our 2 kids twice. I found poo on the floor in his room
. She didn't bother telling me and I found it the 7 am in the morning, I walked in it, EW. NONE of my family live by me and when they did they won't watch my daughter at the time. My mom IS selfish but my aunt did (thank God)
With my son he seems to be reeeally attached to me and dosnt like me leaving him ANYWHERE altho hes does well in sunday school pretty much. He doesnt seem to want to stay home or anywhere with his dad unless im there altho he can get over it sometimes but usually itll end in a loong screaming battle where the neighbors are probably wanting to call the cops! So i take him everywhere with me. He dosnt like his dad picking him up, snuggling by him, hugging him, making him his food/drinks, turning things on for him and anything else. If he does let him snuggle hell say after a few seconds 'ok thats enough' Hes close to him in that he asks for him all the time, misses him at work and wants me to call him for him aaaall the time but for some reason has issues with that. Hurts my husbands feelings. Someone brought up that maybe he dosnt like the smell or feel of him for some reason since he is hyper sensitive to alot of things, maybe ur son is? Sometimes hell get over his distress when were out more i noticed (like say i run into the store or they go thru a drive thru) but not without crying first. This sort of stuff confuses me too! Actually his neuro asked if hes attached to one person, which is me so maybe its kinda common i dont know? O ya my son just made 4. Maybe his anxiety/attachment issues makes him feel more lost when hes at home alone with him and not u as opposed to be out and about? I have no clue! Sorry, still trying to figure mine out!
my 5 years old son would stay home alone with baby sitter, he will tell me go bye bye. but he won't stay with my husbend(his daddy) for even few minuths. as soon as i leave he has to put him in the car and take him shopping or any where beside home. i dont know why . i'm sure he is much better than beby siter to him and he loves to take care of him. but he wont. he cry like crazy till i come back. any one is in same funny situattion?
The only 2 people that ever watch Ali is my mom and sister....and that is only while I work, otherwise we are ALWAYS together.NONE of our family will even watch our son for a MINUTE,Yeah, I pay my mom to watch Ali while I work, she does it but she complains every day almost and is not as good at handling her as I am and refuses to start waking her up early (so she will be ready when she has to get up early for school), she does not have her brush her teeth (now at the dentist Sat. I found out she has 3 cavities), she gives her soda and candy (against my wishes), and half the time she does not even change her out of her PJ's. BUT she is more trustworthy than any day care and cheaper. I would not trust anyone other than her and my sister to keep her safe and watch her. I would never leave Ali with my dad cause he spanks (which I do not believe in) and he has no patience.[QUOTE=autumn]
NONE of our family will even watch our son for a MINUTE,
[/QUOTE] That is sad that your family wont watch him!!! I wish I had family closer. They are all 3000 miles from me, but I do know my Mom would watch my son if she lived closer and I could trust that he would be in good hands. Other than that it's respite, but like you said they are SOOOOOO busy. It doesn't happen often!
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