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Is it typical for an autistic person to have constant anger about alot of stuff from the past and never let go or forgive and forget thing? Just curious because that's what I do alot.It can be common to fixate on things, or be obsessive about things, including things that make you angry. I have heard that persistent anger can be common for ASD adolescents. And I know an autistic adolescent who has told me he finds it VERY hard to let things go. But I'm not an adolescent and I go through my head and rehash alot of things that I'm mad at. I'm 27 and even do thatMy son who is 12 has always done this...even if something happened a few days ago he will remember it and get angry all over again. CANNOT let go and keeps grudges. I'm trying to teach him to be "flexible" and forgiveness...but I don't think it's helping. He really has a hard time with anger...any suggestions about keeping your cool?My husband (35) does this. He is definately an aspie.heh, ya, its a rough 1, i remember all sorts of bad things that occured over the years, but over time (years) i forgave many for what they may have did to me in school, sometimes i run into these ppl in the stores, or downtown er somethin, and we are totally cool. Ya, i bet bad stuff will haunt all of us for life, its a learning experience tho, social experiment.! SInce this obviously disturbs you and distracts you from more profitable thinking, I would see a psychiatrist who specializes in autism. There are medications for these obsessive types of thinking. Yes, this can be a part of the autism disability. And it's called a disability because autism CAN be disabling. If you are thinking about these negative things all the time, you are disabled from thinking of things that will improve your life instead of dragging it down. If I were in your shoes, I'd seek medical help because the right medication can relieve you. My grandmother, a very wise woman, gave me the best piece of social advice anyone has ever given me. It may seem obvious, but we don't often think about it -- "People want to be around happy people. If you want friends, be happy." To the extent that your unhappy thoughts will make you an unhappy person, you will have fewer people WANT to be your friend, which might exacerbate any social issues you have as a person with autism. If you can take away irritating and sad thoughts that plague you, unbidden, you can create a happier persona and be better able to attract people and make friends. Hopefully, an autism expert will be able to help you. I urge you to seek one out. My dh does this...we are in our 40's and he is still fuming over things that happened in high school! He also makes broad generalizatons about things and people based on one bad incident~Everything is black and white and hard to explain to him all the dynamics that make us human..faults and all..he is a total perfectionist so he drives everyone nuts! Now I take anti-depressants and it has HELPED SO MUCH! They are also trying seizure medication. I never had anything weird happen. But look into that soon because I think of how much time I would like back from worrying or holding onto anger. Getting anger out of anyone's life makes it easier. Good luck! |
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My sister called him a a-hole one time at least 20 years ago..because he was:) and he still wont talk to her:P Me & her have a good laugh about it still...my familly had him pegged so we dont hold it against him..he cant help it:)
I have been with him 26 years and know he cant help it..I KNOW he is aspie so I dont hold it against him..he never has told a lie to me in his life..extremely dedicated and faithful husband and father:) Not impulsive at all..majorly predictable! Oh well I am so used to him and cant imagine someone else:)