You know it’s not good news when... | Autism PDD

you know its not good when:

in a house running in-home therapy (well i guess any house really), the kid(s) learn how to open or dismantle:

cupboard locks, doorknob covers, toliet seat locks, outlet guards, slide chains, toliet paper locks, even worse when they realize the connection between a screwdriver and a screw....or memorize combinations and keypad codes when you didnt think they were looking....amazingly realize that the numbers on the phone reciever include the combination "911" etc. jeez i love my job!

...when your son is happily watching and singing/interacting with a DVD for a few minutes while you try to do the dishes, put laundry away, or________________(fill in the blank)...And suddenly you hear nothing...You walk into the living room and your child has stripped from the waist down, pooped on the floor, and is sitting in his father's recliner reading a book, with poop on his feet and the trail on the carpet! You ask, "Where does the poopy go?"...Your child smiles and says "In the potty!!!"I hope I am forgiven for adding this:
You know its not good news ... when you can smell the poop ... but cannot find it
You know it's not good news when your neighbor brings your son back home (he was right there a minute ago!) and tells you he let himself into their house and let all of the dogs out!You know it's not good news when your doorbell rings and your neighbor has your 4 year old in her arms naked and when you last saw him he was in his room playing with his clothes on! That's when we installed high locks on all the doors. You know its not good news when the house becomes quiet for more than two minutes. Especially if I have worked the night before and I hear nothing....you know its not good news when the phone rings 30 minutes before the respite provider is supposed to come and the caller id shows it is her number on the phone..............

You know it's not good when.....

your son comes home from school not only in his change of clothes, but he has on shoes you've never seen before and his backpack is dripping water....

drip

when...you sit though sunday church service just waiting for them to flash you id number on the screen...to come get her,

You know it's not going to be good when you walk into your child's special classroom to drop him off and you hear the teacher saying to a crying autistic child "Quit being such a brat!"

(Needless to say, we withdrew our son from that school)

YOU KNOW IT'S NOT GOOD NEWS WHEN YOUR SONS TEACHER WAITS FOR YOU AT THE OFFICE AS YOU SIGN YOUR SON IN, (WHO BY THE WAY WALKED INTO SCHOOL WITH NO ISSUES FOR THE THIRD DAY IN A ROW)...AND THE TEACHER HAS THAT SAD BUT "i AM GOING TO BURST YOUR BUBBLE SMILE"....I picked ds up from summerschool and two teachers were standing by the
door wide-eyed saying "He had a meltdown" I had to surpress a chuckle -
really a kid with autism at a brand new summer-school with a new
teacher and new classmates and he had a meltdown - go figure. I
understand that this was probably new to the teacher (who looks very
young) but still - why did she think he was in district-paid-for summer
school?
My first 'you know it's bad news when' school experience was when I
came totally unsuspecting to ds's first parent-teacher conference and
was greeted by five staff including the principal. I knew right away that
this meeting was not going to be about how well my kid was doing.
It sucks, when you realize that your kid is going to have a rougher ride in
live.
Anyway - feel free to add your own 'you know it is not good news when'
story

You know it's not good news when :

You walk into the house after a few hours respite and all the kitchen chairs are laying on their sides and the nice organizational bins where all your "stuff" is neatly stored are placed high on the our of reach counters

Told you she was a master chair-tipper and thrower

She comes home from school in clothes you don't recognize and she has SEVERAL changes of clothes in school for accidents !!

You know its not good news you pick your child up from daycare and the provider says SIT DOWN we need to talk.

But it was actually her concerns that spurred us to finally seek evaluation. A long two years later he was diagnosed with atypical autism (PDD-NOS).

It's not good news when you pick your 5yr old son up from the SDC (which still stands for "special day care" to me) and he asks "Why doesn't a soldier not leave a soldier behind?", and over the course of the ride home you figure out that he spent the day watching "Toy Story" and playing computer games

When I was in HS You know its not good when the principle call your house and says

Hi Mike, it's Lou, I have John here

My dad said to me at home. Do you think it’s a good thing the principle and I are on a first name baises.

You know it's not good news when:

You come home from work to your mother who has been watching your child(her grandchild) (WHO YOU PAY A MORE THAN FAIR SALARY TO) and she says "If Ali keeps behaving like she has been...YOU WILL NEED TO FIND ANOTHER BABYSITTER!"

ROFL John. Yep...that would definitely be bad news.

Mine has simply become--

You know it's not good news when you pick up the phone and the called ID has the school's number flashing at you!!!!!!!!!

You know it's not good news when you just get through with a 30 minute phone conference with the principal, hang up and not 10 minutes later the phone rings and the caller ID says it's the school calling again.

You know it's not good news when...

Your child comes home from school wearing the same diaper you sent him to school in.

This happened to Brendon when he was in his old school district. I pulled him out and started "doing it myself." I ran out of pull ups that morning and sent him to school in a diaper that was too small. I told the teacher and aid when I dropped him off and they said they'd change him right after breakfast. He was still in that same diaper when I picked him up after nap time. I was so mad I was spitting nails. I didn't send him back, but I did contact a few people and now they have to document each diaper change for incontinent children. I hope I helped some and that this won't happen to another child in that school.

You know it's not good news when for the 3rd day that week you are called at home to pick up your 4year old Jr. Kindergartener from his half day (2 1/2 hour) program for behavioural issues. Are told upon arrival that they had to call in their "Autism Team" to do a full assessment of why there are the behaviours and to keep him home for the next 3 days until the "team" could arrive to the school for said assessment!

Okay I'll throw one out for my SON:

... when you get a written incident report from daycare, the third this week, stating that another child reports that your son showed a group OF CLASSMATES, "His THING!"

when you drop your son off, come home to try and find 20 minutes of that
rare undisturbed sleep, and the phone rings - it's the school...

when you're in a public outdoor area, a couple kids start pointing and
giggling, and you look to see your son proudly peeing from the top of a
platform/rock/picnic table/other high vantage point

when the one to one worker pulls into the driveway a full hour and a half
early, and you can hear the screaming from all the way inside the house...

I could go on! these are great. Some are frustrating/sad ones I can relate
to, and some of them are the kind where you've got to laugh because it's
just so crazy-autism-behaviour!

When you come home and there's a peanut butter and jelly sandwich stuck to the ceiling....

Mary, GASP!

John, ooooh, not good!

Niki, yes.

You know it's not good news when YOU tell the school diagnostician, "She has a lot of symptoms of autism, but not the social aspects," and she replies, "Oh, yes, she does."

When the aide calls you at work just to see if he took his medicine for the day and he's only been at school 20 minutes.

This can be topped by going home at lunch and finding the medicine on the table or the floor.

When you walk into his bedroom, find the window pried open, screen ripped, and him gone....and you last saw him NAKED!

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You know it's not good news when...

Your child comes home from school wearing the same diaper you sent him to school in.

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This happened to me in 2 different schools. I wasn't happy either.

[QUOTE=Linda11567][QUOTE=Rhosyn]

You know it's not good news when...

Your child comes home from school wearing the same diaper you sent him to school in.

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This happened to me in 2 different schools. I wasn't happy either.

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That's REPREHENSIBLE! I think I would mark up the morning diaper every day, after that!!!

You guys are great. Okay I have another one:
you know it's not good news when:
Your ds nosedives of the couch, you hear a crunching sound as his nose
hits the table and he looks up at you with blood running out and
...smiles.

THESE ARE GREAT....I SO NEEDED THE LOL..ESP. THE PRIED WINDOW AND NAKED CHILD...

YOU KNOW ITS NOT GOOD WHEN YOU TURN THE CORNER ON THE STREET AND AT THE END OF THE STREET YOU SEE A NAKED CHILD...THE CLOSER YOU GET YOU REALIZE HE IS YOURS.(BIG BROTHER WAS "WATCHING HIM)

When he starts carrying around a toy in the store (an exact replica of one has at home)...

the other kids get a snack he can't have.

You know its not good news when the doorbell rings at 6:30am and you answer it. It's your 4yo son standing there. PANIC!!

How on earth did that happen--since all the doors at bolted?

Holly, OMG! That would panic me! Ali is into wondering off and trying to run away now. I am so scared she will get away from me...I have been trying to find some device to keep her from bolting out in public.

.........when you are at a public place (mall, restaurant, swimming pool, etc) and you approach the bathroom and the three year old is yelling and blocking his ears before he even enters "What's that noise? Toilet flushing. I don't like toilet flushing. Don't dare flush that toilet mommy.........I don't like toilet flushing" or "what's that noise, hand drier" (he repeats what I say several times) "hand dryer, I don't like that noise............don't turn on that hand drier"

when your in the cool toy shop wtih all the Thomas the Tank Engine trains you can think of and he screams every time another kid looks at, approaches or touches any of the trains on the table (this is particularly fun at the library).

another family member makes it to the car before him; get's their seat belt on before him; someone else makes it out the door before him; someone else opens the door before him.....................