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It usually takes longer than that to get his mom to leave. As for the toys he has a whole toy box of toys that he loves here. Getting him to stay here isn't a problem, I was worried that him going back home MIGHT cause him problems
Thanks for the advice Oh I see, well in that case can YOU stay at his new place? Bring familiar elements back and forth such as a toy or maybe even a plant or something that you can set up back in their new home when he goes home? I am sure you will get some great ideas from others, those are just the thoughts I had.
Hi everyone
I had the best weekend ever! I got to keep my sweet Devin all night!!! It was amazing. He was sooooo good, he was interacting with us, showing affection, playing etc. Just like he did when he was living here.
I have a big concern though: do you think this could be confusing to him? I mean it has only been 3 months since my dd, sil, Devin and Isabella moved into their own place. After the move Devin regressed, he has started to do better now, he is stettling in to his new home, I spend as much time as I can at his home with him. When he got here he went to all his favorite spots, his old bedroom, the porch with his swing.
I am just afraid I will cause him to regress again, and that would kill me. I want to do what is best for Devin
WHAT DO YOU THINK???
Grandma to Devin age 3 ASD/SID
I don't think it will hurt him. It is hard for my son to adjust to moves also, and new environments. But IMO we can't protect them from this forever, they need to experience new places and have the confidence to grow comfortable there. Transitions are always hard for my son - moves are the worst. But I think the benefits of visiting his Grandma outweigh the problems he may have with transitioning. Does he have a favorite toy he can bring or a routine he can do each time before he comes to your house? Can his mom stay for 20 - 30 minutes while he adjusts to your home again? I would just do the best you can.I think he would be one lucky little boy to have two soft places to land and be surrounded by people that love him so much:) Routines are always going to be hard at first...he will get used to it very fast. I wish my kids had more time with their grandparents but they are over 80 so we never leave them with them..just visit:)