also he is not verbal all the time some times he will ask for every thing and some times he will take me to place and show me what he wants. I don't know if that is usuall or Im not doing some thing right all the time . any suggestion please.he is 5 years boy.
I would get speech therapy and use lots of modeling and make him use his words to get his needs. Sometimes if they can get you to get their needs met it is much easier than using their words...dont let him rely on you to the point he stops talking to get things...also sometimes kids feel like talking on some days and not so much on other days even typical kids so dont worry. I just wouldnt make it too easy for him:) thank you shelly for your advice. but does your doughter talk can she carry covorsetion?Hi Lili - My youngest son has a severe language delay. He had words, but he really did not start using them until he was almost 4 years old. Then he only spoke to get his needs met. (i.e. "I want water please.") He would get what he wanted if he used his words. Like Shelley said, don't make it too easy for him.
Being around other children really did not seem to make much impact on my son's language aquistion. He really needed one-on-one instruction. He did/does have speech services at school, but they are simply not enough. I sought out the help of a private speech-language pathologist who specializes in working with autistic kids. I take him once a week and she gives me "homework" to do with him. Also, we are doing VB/ABA therapy. We continue to model language for him and all of our efforts are making a difference. He just turned 6 the end of May. He talks a lot now and is becomming more conversational.
Is your son's therapist suggesting he might be ADD?
My son also did not start to communicate until the age of 4. He has a very large vocabulary, but has a speech delay. Until almost a year ago, he could not simply ask for what he wanted, he would point and grunt. It was so frustrating. But now, after lots of hard work and determination, he can carry on a full conversation (to an extent), he can ask questions and tell me what he wants.Me too, sweetie. He does it in small bits and boy-oh-boy, are they wonderful!
I had both boys outside gardening with me at ages 1&3, when Cole said "Mommy? Jack's eating a ladybug." I looked over and saw my toddler with a giant, live cockroach struggling to climb out of his chomping yaw.
This was not a giant conversation, but Cole stepped up to the plate in order to help out his little brother. I'll bet you too will see more and more little bright spots like this one, and they'll get longer, more frequent as the months go by.
There's no telling what our kids are capable of! Ladybugs and all.
thank you every body. All i dream for my son is that one day he sit by me and tell me what is going on in his mind that is my bigest wish if he can talk at least for himself.
My son had a great vocabulary even at age 2 (500 words), but the conversational stuff iwas and is pretty crummy. He had gotten better over the years, but its been a gradual thing.
Speech therapy helps! But your home grown stuff may help more. Try finding and reading storybooks that feature conversations. Do you know that old PD Eastman book called Go Dog Go? Its great for basic concepts like up & down, over & under, BUT there's also a tiny reoccurring conversation...hello, hello, do you like my hat? no, I do not, goodbye, goodbye. The dogs do this conversation like 4 times, with slight variations. You can do the poodle voice with a high, French accent and the other voice deep. Encourage your child to do the deep voice.
The more you make conversations FUN and silly and rewarding, the more your child will be motivated to invest. This is loosy-goosy ABA in a way, and we know that stuff works.
My girls can talk in sentences, but their 'conversational language' is considered moderately delayed while their vocabulary and their ability to group objects by type - these sort of rote language skills, are all advanced. If you look at one of their language assessments, they have some skills that are in the single digits percentage-wise and some skills are in the 80-90 percentile range. This sort of 'spikiness' is common with ASD kids. Like your child, they have a rich vocabulary but their conversational skills delayed by comparison. A good SLP can help with this, as can all of the intensive 1:1 therapies (ABA - ABA/VB, etc.). Exposure to typical kids can help if the child is motivated to interact with the other children and their interactions with them are facilitated.