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Shelley, you know you'd be the first girl in the door if Johnny came to visit.  We bought a set of those old fashioned keys on a ring at Disney World - the ones that look like the dog had in his mouth in Pirates of the Caribbean?  We have them hanging in the kitchen so they're there if he ever stops by...will lend them to you any time!

My DD was always fairly social, especailly with adults.  She has alot of spontanous talk, and will chat your ear off, only its very one-sided.  When she was younger, she was really interested in kids at the park, etc, but WOULD NOT try to play with them.  She would parallel play and then totally ignore them when they would try to interact.

I think most of us are finding out that our kids all have some similarities, but don't fit into the 'old' thought of what autism is. 

The girls try to be social (especially with adults) but aren't good at it.  In my observation, that's a pattern with most of our kids - they want to interact with people (perhaps calling it social interesting is over generous, but they definitely crave interaction), especially adults, but find other kids a little spooky and confusing.  The girls started interactive play with peers just this year (about 4.0-4.5), but would parallel play for years prior.  There play with peers is still very basic (they like to pretend to be animals and run around chasing each other), but it's there.  They're crazy about almost any adult who comes buy.Savannah is pretty social...with adults...she wants to be with other kids but..just doesnt make the connection.My son is very social. He however did not show any interest in children his
age until he started playgroup at 3 1/2. He only played with his cousins who
were 4 and 7 yrs older, his siblings and their friends who are much older.
He however would play with any adult any where any time. When he learned
turn taking and playing simple games like Hallaboloo, he started to actually
play with other kids. Awkward at first but got better with time. He started
to play with boys at first and would only seek out boys at the beginning.
Now he will play with girls as well as boys. I have noticed that his pretend
play still needs more work. I am trying everything I can to improve his
language that is and will be his biggest defecit. We do VB/ABA and speech.
If anyone has any ideas for pragmatics, please let me know.My son responds to us and his therapists. He will respond to other adults, sometimes, but never has with other kids. Not even his sister.

Our son is social with us, lesser with his brother, and mostly ignores other kids.  However, he asks to go see the other kids at their houses! 

If he is seriously daydreaming though, the Wiggles and Captain Jack Sparrow could probably walk in the door and he'd ignore them. 

OH!  Did I write Johnny Depp walking through the door?  Excuse me while I daydream myself...

Teaser! :~P Now she is!

At the daycare he only plays with one, and even for that case he plays it if the shadow pushes him. He does not show any interest to the others.

Daddy39272.6074305556

Adam is quite social and begs to go to the neighborhood park to see his "best friend D".  D is the same age as Adam and has Pdd-Nos but is very much indistinguishable.  Much more vocal and social than Adam is.  They play very typically together.  It's a joy to watch him interacting with another child that isn't teasing or being mean to him.  I've seen the latter before and it really stinks when it happens.

Karrie

Actually MANY of our kids here are quite social.

My daughter is terrific with everyone except her peers.  And even then, sometimes.  not sure if hse has any close friends, she is slow to warm, but seemed to be interacting typically, when I watched her in her classroom.

She was just dx'd at age 6.  We adopted her at 12 mos and she was VERY affectionate with us after a brief warming up.  She was also bonded quite clearly to one caregiver, at her orphanage.

VERY social. However, at age 16, his actual skills are poor. He is not mature.  His language is impaired. Still, he LOVES people and attempts interacting. Most people are charmed by his differences. But that's because it's clear from the get-go that "something is wrong" with him.  It wasn't that clear when he was little, so he was often held to NT standards by strangers. Now strangers talk to him like he's 5. I don't know which is worse. But the current reaction at least doesn't hold me to blame for him.

My husband and I are awaiting our date at Iowa City for them to eval our son. (2 years and 4 months old) He is very repetitive, points at lights all day long, loves to watch fans, runs excessivly, however he points to my husband and I and calls our names (this just started to happen), and has fairly good eye contact. He loves to rough play and to be tickled. Someone told us our son was to social to be considered even on the spectrum. However, he does not play with other children unless they do his repetitive actions with him. He also loves spinning objects and has a huge issue with change. We are stressed because we were told he has abehavior issue. He no longer bangs his head that much unless there is a meltdown. We have purchased an ipod that plays his favorite music and brooksone make a small speaker to place it in which has been a life saver.  Is anyones child like this?? We were wondering before we go through the testing.

My son LOVES other kids and WANTS to communicate with them...he is verbal but has a VERY hard time getting out what he wants to. He is very repetitive and is very hyper (he's ADHD as well)...rough housing is an outlet for him as well. He was 1st dx PDD about 2 -21/2 years ago and just recently was dx classic autistic. They were telling me I was nuts at his school b/c they couldn't get around the fact that he talked...he scripts mostly.

R is very social with me and with his Dad and his teachers and therapists - in fact he HATES To be alone and is very very affectionate - but totally ignores other kids

the kids in daycare are really nice to him but he ignores them

Cartersmommy - the diagnosis of ASD will open many doors for you -  it will be a good thing to get the diagnosis as you will get many free services

My ds is very social. With peers and adults. He never went through
stranger anxiety and is very physically affectionate.It was cute when he
was little but now that he is seven we are working hard on NOT going up
to strangers to talk and NOT hugging people we don't know.
I think being social is not that unusual in asd kids and it is a good skill
because a desire to connect with people is a great motivator for language
development. [QUOTE=micki]My ds is very social. With peers and adults. He never went through
stranger anxiety and is very physically affectionate.It was cute when he
was little but now that he is seven we are working hard on NOT going up
to strangers to talk and NOT hugging people we don't know.
I think being social is not that unusual in asd kids and it is a good skill
because a desire to connect with people is a great motivator for language
development.[/QUOTE]

We have the same problem...Payne doesn't know a stranger and will just walk up to people and start trying to talk to them. He has gotten better about the hugging everyone thing.
Carter is not social with others however, he speaks more script. He is social with his family that he sees on a regular basis. It takes time to warm up. He does care who is in the room though. I will say one thing that I should have gone with my gut feeling and never listening to the lady who told me my son was to social. She has been working with autistic children for more than 25 years and you would think she would know. What do you guys do when your child starts the repetitive side? She told me to stop him at all times. I can not stop the fans from being on or having places shut off the lights. I feel bad if we let him do it however, the joy it brings him is amazing. I do limit it though and live on the floor with him to promote floor time. I feel as if he gets more attention than my other 2 children. Thanks for all your responses. Its nice to know that I am not the only one out there adjusting to this. I was told that it's more about the child bringing YOU into his world than about being social.  Like showing you something in a book or a picture he colored.  Our eval said our son did this too often and therefore was not autistic even though he had other symptoms (our opinion) like strong personality, sensory issues (mostly gone now), poor fine motor and the obvious language disorder.

Jason is pretty social with DH and me, and has recently started showing some interest in his siblings again.  Everyone else on the planet may as well be wallpaper to him!

He's also a big tickling/roughhousing/spinning/swinging/upside down turning kind of kid.  He loves that sort of play, and it's about the only thing that will make him laugh.


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