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Again the terrible toddler years...
Is Curtis verbal ? Over-aggressive discipline can be counter-productive. What abt his parents? It sounds like Curtis stays with you right now... anybody else in your house? Is there anyone that Curtis can relate to ? As someone else will probably mention... a social story might help... but one that involves his favourite cartoon character may enhance the effect. One that tells how painful it can be to his favourite character when he/she gets kicked ( add with dramatic sound effects....Ouchh!! Arrghh!! and so on ).
See how it goes... and AuntietoCurtis, there'll be more suggestions coming from others... very soon...
Thanks boobear and Fred...
I have custody of C but he sees each of his parents at least once every weekend. It seems strange to most people but we have a unique family situation. Lilguy and I share a house with his paternal Grandfather (my brother) and his second wife (my best friend). Lilguy gets LOTS of attention, hugs and play time with all of us! I will try a Social Story about hitting and kicking, I did one when we moved and when we found out he was going to be a big brother. He is 4 now and just started school yesterday for the summer session. I can't wait to see changes as he resettles into a more structured routine. I'm tired of saying "NO" all the time. When I am in doubt of why my son does something, I document it. The time of day, what we were doing, where we were. You need to find the root cause of this. Maybe it is after seeing his mom, or when his sibling comes over. You'll be surprised how easy it is to figure out if you document it. Does he have speech? I would agree that you need to keep track of the kicking and hitting. See if it
Hi.... it's been a while since I've written in but I didn't want to be a nuisance. My lilguy still has no diagnosis and at our visit to the neurologist last week the Doctor said that he still only saw a developmental delay and does NOT think he falls in the spectrum. Here is what's happening now. He is hitting and pinching. Not just occasionally but nearly everytime he comes near us. He has a younger sister who does not live with us but visits on the weekends. She is 7 months old and he is hitting and pinching her as well. Kicking and hitting the dogs too! He has been out of school since June 12th and we have moved as well. Sharing a big house with other family members. If anyone has any ideas or advice I am open to ALL suggestions. I have tried time-outs, removing him from the area and lastly I have slapped his hand. This has become another problem because now when I say "NO" he slaps his own hand. I'll wait to hear from you.... Auntie H I've been watching him more closely for a pattern of events that might be causing his hitting, kicking and aggressiveness. I think he's frustrated. His functional language is really not much more than labeling most times. He can ask for things, but not the way a 4 yr old NT does. He will walk over and say "cheezbawls" or "choketmiwk". He knows the cars of the family members and names them as we walk by them or pull into the yard and will say "mimishome". So his language is better than before but not really functional yet. When he is upset, he just seems to lash out. I mentioned it to a pediatrician at our last visit and she said "most 3 yr olds hit and kick and do so for attention. try and ignore it" LOL I don't care if he's hitting me but to hit the 7 month old baby, I can't tolerate. The last few days when he's hitting the baby or the pets, I tell him that it's time for a nap and go hop on his bed. (thinking of course to be an unfruitful exercise for me) He actually goes into his room and gets on the bed and STAYS there until I go and get him. I was amazed! I bring him back out then, but try and do it gradually and not back into a crowd of others. Maybe in a way I'm giving into his need for more attention, I don't know. I will keep watching and try to figure him out. Thanks again for all of the help. Hey there Auntie My name is Alice and I am the grandmother of a 12 year old boy with Autism. I am raising him now because he went through some abuse and negect while living with his father and his mother abansoned him when he was 9. To make a long story short When Kevin came to us it was the honeymoon period but as soon as he realized it was for a very long time he became very angry. When his father would come over to visit him we went through hell for a few days, then the father started taking for weekends twice a month and when he got back the fits of hitting, punching, scratching and biting lasted for about 10 days then he would be calm for 4 days and we would start all over again. We soon found out that the father was giving him his video games just as he did when he was living with his parents about 15 hours a day while with us he only gets 90 minutes if vudei and 90 minutes of internet a day. Another thing that bothered Kevin is the fact that daddy would come in with his brother and his sister and daddy would leave with his brother and sister and Kevin couldn't understand why they were a family and not him. So we started talking to him about me grandpa and him made our own little family and we also arranged things that the father can come over and visit but he is not allowed to take Kevin with him for weekends. I can not prevent him from seeing his father but I can control the situation all I had to do was mention that my son is a drug addict. I now control the situation and I can tell you that Kevin's agressions have deminished about 95% Maybe your LILGUY is telling you that he is not happy with the situation and that he might just rather not see his parents for a little while? Kevin has strived since he has been in our strict structured home and in Kevin's case that is exactly what he needed he is so secure now in his little life. Tons of Hugs Alice
subsides as school starts again. You are right that you want to get a handle
on this at a very early age. You also want to find out the function of the
hitting and kicking, request a FBA if you can from your SD. How much
funtional language does he have? Can he verbalize his needs? Has he always
hit and kick just not as much? Could this be regression due to the summer?
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