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tzoya is right! get it in writing. i would also show up to observe him, and they can't argue with that!I would put the concern in writing to the head of the program. Your son NEEDS to go to school daily. Keeping him home will make Sept. so much worse. THEY need to accomodate him. Call an IEP meeting to get training for the staff or to get additional supports put into his ESY IEP for him. THis is important.My ds is going to ESY right now, he started last week and goes everyday for 6 hours a day. He's been having a hard time adjusting, well today after 4th of July break he had to go back, I knew he wasn't going to be happy but I didn't expect him to cling to me for dear life or cry and scream for me not to go. This breaks my heart and to be honest he has never been this upset to go to school, he never did this at his old school, only on the first day.

Well his aid comes out to get him and looks at me and says I should have kept him home. I explained to her that it's his way of adjusting and that he needs time to adjust. This is also the aid who came to work in Pjs one day. Well my son starts saying he's scared so I was trying to ask him why and he is crying tears and not wanting me to go, she grabs his hand and gives me a look like she thinks I'm being too protective. I don;t like her and I know my son doesn't like her. Honestly I've never experienced this before from any of his old teachers or aides.

I called the school a half an hour later to check on him and they seemed annoyed, I truly feel like they think I'm an overprotective mother, I'm not sure how to address this, but something doesn't feel right and I feel like I'm torturing my son by making him go to this school. Any suggestions or advice would be nice Thanks guys for your advice, I'm not sure whom I should call? He has a case manager for just summer school, I wonder if I should call him first or someone else? Like I said this is the first time I've had to deal with this and my instincts are tingling, my son is miserable and I've never seen him this upset before at a school. I'm just feeling guilty and overwhelmed right now. Why does this have to be so hard From one mom to another, I understand your feelings. I have been told on many occasions that I am overprotective, but you know what? Thats my job. These children are "different" and therefore in my opinion, its ok to be a bit overprotective.
I tell my husband all the time, that if I don't protect our kids, then who will. I totally understand the feelings that you are having, I have them myself all of the time. Don't let the school or teachers make you feel like you are over reacting, that is YOUR child, not theirs. I have found my kids to be a good judge of character when it comes to some people. If you already dislike this teacher and so does your child, it may be something worth looking into. It could be just a separation anxiety issue, or it could simply be that your child feels mistreated my this teacher. Look into it, show up early to the classroom and see for yourself. If this is causing so much fear in your little one, don't overlook it, There could be more to it than you know.

Candy, I would not put up with these attitudes, I would call a

higher up' asap and explain this - this is NOT RIGHT !!

Well said Autumn!!!!

Well his aid comes out to get him and looks at me and says I should have kept him home. (quote)

She really needs some education in dealing with kids with autism..if we kept our kids home everytime they screamed they would never go to school!

A BCBA should be called in to do a functional analysist to figure out why he is so upset and set up a protocol/plan for the teachers to follow..this is their job to figure out how to help him achieve in school not yours.

I am just like you and have heard I am so over protective to the point I feel they are going to call CPS on me!

Your child is communicating he is unhappy..it could be a means of escape or something else is going on..

Does the school have an open door policy where you can observe him in class? I would also contact the resource teacher to peek in on him and see how he is doing...I did this often and made fast friends with the nurse who did this for me many times:)

Very small gestures that made me breathe a lot easier:) Good luck!

Candy

I agree call someone in your district and tell them what is happening and how your child is reacting. This doesn't sound like it is a productive environment for you or for your son. I know I had a similar situation last year with a bus driver we were pretty sure hit my son but couldn't prove it. We saw a whole attitude change with him after she started driving and something happened. Always go with your instincts and if the school doesn't like it oh well this is your child not theirs and you have a right to fair education without mistreatment.

This Aide came to work in PJs???? Geez. How PROFESSIONAL.

And the school -- well if whoever was inconvenienced by your call, tough nookies to THEM.

And complain, about both of them, yes!