Anyone else going through this and tired of it?
Adam: (screaming at the top of his lungs in walmart) "Get away from me....don't come near me!!!!"
He did this anytime I ended up anywhere near him. All this because I made him hold my hand in the parking lot.
AT DINNER THIS EVENING:
Adam: (screaming at the top of his lungs again....) " IT"S WET!!! IT"S WET!!! (talking about his hamburger because he had just eaten watermelon and a tiny drop fell on the bun)
Catch phrases around my house everyday. (again....screaming at the top of his lungs) :
" STOP IT!!!! STOP IT!!!"
" I"M NOT GONNA (put in any activity here) ANY MORE!!!
"DON'T LOOK AT ME!!!"
" NO YOU CAN'T (insert any activity here) !!!"
" ADDISON CAN' T HAVE THAT!!!!"
The list goes on and on......and it is constant all day.
Anyone else have a stinky disposition child that never seems happy with anything and yells at you all day long????
Thanks for the vent!
Karrie
It's funny I was looking at an old tape of Sarah when she just turned 5 and during therapy and she was oppositional about everything...everything had to be her way or a tantrum followed...look into Oppositional defiance Disorder...the only advice I have is to teach him that this behavior will get him nothing..nado..no attn. nor reaction..ignore it completely and never give in or respond to it and it will slowly disappear.. we use a time out every time Sarah starts to get into the mode of fussing and controlling..I calmly tell her that she cant have her way all the time..try to compromise..if that dont work I warn her and then if she still protests she has to go to her room with her door closed..SHE HATES THIS!! so she complies quickly:) Have nerves of steel and best poker face and both you and dh have to be on the same page or it wont work. IT gets better but he has to learn that life is not going to go according to his way at all times..it is a hard lesson for them to learn. Get some earplugs:) Best of luck:)I guess I am a chicken and RARELY go anywhere!My ds has been SCREAMING for a week over EVERYTHING and we dont know why!!!!!!!! IT is so hard! He has only a few words, otheriwse i am sure he would be saying the same things karajabs30 ds is saying! I am sure he is THinking them-lol!
I feel like a rotten mom! I drug my child! So---he isn't so oppostional anymore. But our opposition was very violent. Destruction of anyone or anything in his way. Beating my baby girl in the head with his fists while driving in the van---because she was singing. Beating the crap out of me while I was driving---because he didn't get something he wanted or we didn't go somewhere he wanted to.
So I guess for us--meds were for safety issues!
Karrie - We're in the same boat these days. I seem to have to drag my son by the arm every where we go, kicking and screaming, because he will not hold my hand. The answer to everything is NO NO NO, even if it's something he wants. He is just miserable. My son goes to his room when he gets totally out of control (at least once a day) and he, like Sarah, HATES this. I am very consistent and do have nerves of steel, but am wondering if this phase will ever come to an end.This post got lost before I got a chance to respond to all of you.
Thanks for the replies.
Shelly, I have thought about ODD. I questioned it especially with my oldest until his therapist told me otherwise. Everything I have ever read about ODD gives me the impression the these children are calculated in their defiance. Example : A child that is angry at his mother and takes it out on someone that he/she knows will hurt the mother. Says things that he/she KNOWS will hurt someone else. Or senslessly hurting an animal out of their own curiosity or anger.
Adam's anger and defiance truly does not seem calculated. It's very much in the moment out of frustration. I have to be honest though...everything I have read does not leave a pretty light on for the future of children with ODD. Maybe that is why I am hesitant to embrace this one. Statistics are not good for especially boys with this disorder...A lot of them end up in prison. Maybe we will have to check it out though just to be sure. It certainly will not hurt to talk to a professional about it. Thanks
Holly.....As parents we do what we have to do and sometimes that means meds. My oldest was a terror (ADHD) and we didn't think twice when it came to meds with him. He truly needed something for concentration, behavior and anxiety.
Thanks everyone.......
Karrie
Karrie,
I had my son evaluated by our local mental health place. Even though he's just 3.5, he was diagnosed with "conduct disorder" which is a more generic term than ODD. I also think they hesitate to specifically diagnose children until they turn 4. Anyway, because of the conduct disorder diagnosis, my son is eligible for certain services, one of which is a social worker who works one on one with him. My son loves this social worker and even though he's not trained in autism, he is trained in social skills and redirecting. I was hesitant to label my kid so early, but my son's anger and defiance was more than I could handle. I want to curb this now if possible. Like you said, it can't hurt to talk to a professional. You can always walk away or you might just find something that would help your son.