Rita, my 4 yo dd gets upset about demands. She isn't doing ABA yet hopefully soon.
I don't know how your therapy is set up but this sounds like it could be my dd. Maybe there isn't enough desired activities vs desired activities or the durations are too long or to many, or the therapist just isn't the right one for her. Maybe, it's been too much to soon for your dd's ASD severity and a more graduated plan would work better. Maybe it would be good for you to be included in the program.
I would be concerned if the behaviour or stress continues outside the sessions like if she's withdrawn or aggressive the rest of the day. I know with my dd (nonverbal ASD), we have to watch for self-injurous behaviour especially head banging and serious withdrawal. Although we want to keep pushing for progress, we have to constantly keep on top of her stress otherwise we end up with a far worse problem than a potential gain.
Rita, did you mean "therapist," or, "THE RAPIST?" LOL! I am sure your dd feels like she is the latter.
Thats what Susan (the rapist) has been doing.. for instance when she walked in today, she took my daughter to the front yard for a mini walk! Even then, my dd DIDN"T want to leave my side.. She does do water stuff in the beginning (she started to do this recently) to get my daughter off to a good start but its still all this resistance and almost resentment! I am so confused.. I dont know what happenned and how to fix this.....Could you talk to the therapist about having maybe a "fun-time" at the beginning of each session. Something that has to do with her favorite things. DS therapist starts with either a dip in the baby pool, bubbles in the bubble machine, swinging on the swing, basically an outdoor activity. It may seem like wasting time to some, but if 15 min of building a positive relationship is what my DS needs then it seems worth it to me.
Ok so now my dd will see the therapist and cling to me like magic glue... she is PHOBIC to spend ANY time with the therapst.. its been 4 days and the crying has not receeded - She has been SCREAMING for the whole hr.
This is the SAME therapist from earlier on but has increased sessions..... could that be it? Is it all the xtra demanding that's upsetting her?? My dd gets 15 hrs of therapy now per week...the increased hrs just began 2 weeks ago. Could I attribute the screaming to increased therapy? Could it be too much for her to take in? Could she be overloaded???
I am afraid she is going to develop a ear ache with all this screaming..... and her favorite therapist has turned MONSTER.. in her eyes.... I don't get it.If I remember correctly...your daughter is under 3. Would it be possible to do early intervention therapy at home? That is how they do it in Illinois. Is that an option in your state? Hey Rita,
I have a clinic on Friday. I will ask my BCBA about this. He is very good. I
do know that my son will try to shut down or be non responsive when a
new harder demand is placed on him. Do you have a consultant? If you
do, have them look at the program as well as the reinforcers that is in
place. You are right that your daughter needs to get over this compliance
issue or she will not learn. There are times when the therapist is not the
right fit but in this case it is only Mommy that will do, is this correct? You
have also changed the location of the therapy to different parts of your
home right? Your therapist will have to figure this one out as well. She is
trying new approaches and that is good. As long as you do not give in to
it, you are not doing any harm. Just hand tough, get some earplugs. This
is way too early to give up on ABA. Your daughter needs to associate
getting the work done and then being with Mommy. Anything ele you
want me to ask my BCBA I will do. Just hang in there.
KathyI would feel uneasy, too. My son used to cry his head off, so I sat in on sessions with them so I could learn. Maybe your presence will help her, then every now and then say, "mommy will be right back", and sneak out for a few minutes and come back. Eventually, you could expand the time you are out of the room. Give it a try.
good luck
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