Sounds like your son needs sensory integration therapy. If you learn about giving him LOTS of sensory input, that will substitute for the running around outside. What running around does for him is it helps him "organize" his brain. An OT can explain this more fully and give you good interventions that will do the same thing for him.
Your right on with that Tzoya,His OT said at his last Visit that he is seeking Deep Proprioceptive sensory input,She suggested a therapeutic Hammock,I think a Large beanbag chair would help to, Unfortunately this was his last OT appointment at the hospital ,he will be referred to OT at School.
Linda
As you know, we do the walk-no-talk, but not regularly since my son is much older than yours and has outgrown the frequent meltdown phase.
Basically, walk-no-talk is physical movement combined with venting, and even normal adults do it -- we pace and vent when we're worked up about something. We adults don't do it that often because we've learned other coping strategies.
You're already teaching him other strategies, as I recall, such as the incredible 5 point scale. This WILL pay off in the long run.
Walk-no-talk is definitely harder to do in the winter -- goodness, putting on all those heavy winter clothes would be enough to push any kid from escalation to meltdown! The article made it somehow sound like it was developed as a school strategy, and schools have those nice long hallways... At home, we have to come up with some creative alternatives. One alternative might be to go up and down the stairs while venting.
Good luck with everything.
Thanks ,I do talk to him once he is calm,I never give in <normally he is tantruming in response to being Disciplined ,and his inability to accept consequences , After he calms we carry on with the consequences as planed.
As I was putting him to bed tonight he was in a bad mood,he was tense and angry he said I want to run!!!,His dad is out of town so I couldn't take him out ,besides I wouldn't at bed time anyway,I said he could use his tramp but he declined ,so we did some deep pressure,and a story,then he was OK.
I wonder if a treadmill would help him?,he is very Active ,That's why walk no talk works so well,he loves to run.But i cant take him out all the time.
God bless ,Linda
sorry, I do all that, and yes I watch how Super Nanny works wonders in a week with the kids she works with,well it all seams like a fairy tail to me ,I don't think ASD kids can be" fixed "in a week!,Yes she has alot of strategies that make since ,But as a very experienced Foster parent most kids take alot longer if ever.Also most families on her show are dysfunctional ,parents have no Idea how to raise children.
Walk no talk, is a Program to stop things from getting out of hand ,when your child to spite your best efforts is going to Rage!!,you pull them out of the situation and walk with them,you do not speak to them,It works well.
I just didn't save it ,so I will search for it.Linda
Found it , http://http://www.isec2005.org.uk/isec/abstracts/papers_m/my les_b.shtmlCan someone also give the name of Super Nanny's book?
Thanks,
Karman
I think it's a good approach to use to bring Zach out into the open in a new environment from where he started his yelling... Let him be for a while, but always within sight and within reachable distance in case he gets into trouble...
As a long-term tactic, of course it's unwise & not sustainable... so walk and talk a little bit.. may be better than walk and no talk at all. Start explaining to him repercussions if it is repeated...like MosesJr_Mommy suggested, removal of an item he is fond off, or even removal of TV time (if he's attached to it)... And ALWAYS let him know you're always there with OPEN ARMS for him to come back to for a hug... and he might do it with tears in his eyes... then it's WALK and NO NEED to TALK anymore...
When your son gets out of control ,you take him outside. Seems a great idea so your child lets that out but i wouldnt have it as a routine to control him. NOt all the time you can go outside or your wife to do this. I think you should find something in the house that you can take away from him, and he will understand that each time he gets out of hand you will remove that away from him.
Have you ever watch supernanny? That show has helped me so much in terms of behavior,disipline etc... My son gets out of control all the time . gets loud, starts punching me (not so hard) and screams back at me tings like Stop mommy, i dont like you etc... So what im doing is taking away anything he is playing with at the moment or if we supposed to go to the park , i cancel the park that day, make him pick up his room ..things like that. Its hard at the beginning but they get the hang on it . If they continue acting like that ,it wont take them nowhere. Good luck!
I have been using this and it works well,as soon as he starts getting out of control i grab him and take him outside ,We live on a park so i take him for a run he yells for the first few minutes but calms down after running ,My question is ,how long do I keep this up ?,do I replace it with something,Is it doing anything to learn him self control,or will he be back to raging in the house in January/
Do any of you use this ,and is there a program to go with it?(I didn't save the link).
Linda