Nicole, Iam so sorry you are in this position of feeling so overwhelmed. It sounds very tough.
Hopefully the apnea sleep study will help resolve the asthma and reflux for your DS (it CAN, sometimes!). Keep up your hope there.
Your older daughter, yes I am sure she is acting out and feeling the impact of everything you all are going through. She'll be okay, kids are resilient.
-- More one-on-one? Can you stagger nap times at all? Or do YOU need the rest? I know I would. You can only do what you can do, do not get guilted out over "more one-on-one," or it will make things worse. Forgive yourself, take breaks, ask your husband for some respite time, or other family members. I hope you can take care of yourself and recharge. ALL motherhood is tough. SAHMhood, IMHO, is even tougher. Add Special Needs SAHMhood, and wow, you have got it tough. But with your kids' ages, this is the toughest time. Things WILL get better. Hang in there.
Nicole
Sorry you are having such a hard time. I totally understand and can tell you at two it is definetly part of the age because my two year old ds is also going through this phase and it is driving me crazy. It does get better just give it time. I know one thing we are working on right now is a timeout system in which he actually gets timeout and isn't allowed to swing at us. We also do the sticker charts which have helped tons with my oldest my youngest is warming to the idea. The way we have done them is there are several ways to earn stickers if you help you get a sticker, if you share your toys you get a sticker, if you go potty you get a sticker, etc. and each chart has what the accomplishment was and then their names. Good luck I hope it starts looking better soon.
It's so hard to understand what changes their emotion's so suddenly isn't it? I guess just try to take a good look around and see if anything has changed that might be bothering her...it could be something so simple to us, but for them it's tramatic.
If nothing else, I think the age of 2 is just a tough time for any child! They are learning independence and just what they can and can't get away with...they learn very quickly what behavior gets them attention! Try to use as much positive reinforcement as possible! I know how hard it is to try and explain to the other children, but my 4 yr old gets it most of the time...I just talk to her and usually she is ok with what I am saying and very understanding! There are of course days that she won't accept it and does the whining or fighting
When Mason was a lot younger I used to feel that he was "special" so I didn't need to apply the same rules to him...WOW did I learn fast that that wasn't the case!! Make sure your DD has for the most part the same rules as the other children...and like I said lots of positive reinforcement.
I hope that helps at least a little...good luck!
amie, I started a post about terrible twos but erased it b/c I was afraid Iwould sound like I was writing off her behavior!
I agree, establishing a consistent timeout or other discipline is a good idea.
also ... could seh be TEETHING and irritable? 2 yr molars can be the pits. Look for physical illnesses/injuries/owies, just in case. DD about sent me around the bend once, and it turned out to be TEETH. She got motrin and all was right in the world again.
Trinity has always had a very special relationship with her older sister and brother. But lately it seems she will not allow them to come near her. If they try, she starts a screaming fit. I am completely baffled at this especially with her little brother, she used to be extremely protective of him and demanded we let her hold him. Now if he even crawls toward her or me while I am holding her she freaks out. Also, she has become very stingy with toys. Even if she is not playing with them and her brother or sister goes to play with them she will start. Anybody else deal with this? I don’t know how to explain this to her older sister who is five and I am trying to teach about sharing. It even is as bad as I won’t allow her to be alone playing with the baby for fear she may hit or kick him if she gets mad. This is not my sweet little girl. Also, she has been overly clingy with me and her daddy too. HELP?
Time out was started before all this happened and then it too has disappeared. I am lost. The therap. says more one on one and then she acts even more spoiled. There is a fine line between too much time and not enough and I cant find it.It is so hard and I am guilty of treating her dif now. But so is everybody else.
My oldest dd went to talk to a therap. the other day and I didn’t realize how much this is affecting her. She has been acting out for attention. They say more one on one.
My baby ds is now having to do a sleep study for apnea,that on top of reflux and asthma. He is so so clingy and d oes not EVER sleep more than 2 hours at a time.
My dh is great but works 60+ hours a week to barely pay bills.
I am a SAHM but still cant figure out how to spread all my time for each kid and still do anything. I never have a.second to myself, I even shower with at least one kid...I just feel really lost right now
Everyday is another doc apt. I am so sleep deprived I really don’t think its safe to be driving.
This whole thing is too much.
I'm sorry this has turned into a me venting...
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