Well here it is...Hits you right in the face. It's so weird because most of the time other than his stinky behavior I forget all the time that he is on the spectrum.....Until something social is expected of him. In this video he is for lack of better words..."Flaming" LOL He is grimicing...posturing...and having what gtto described to me once as an inability to respond. To make it short...he doesn't like for me to ask too many questions. The quality is not good..my digital camera is old but you get the point anyway...
Any comments or suggestions are welcomed..... Working on filming his stinky behavior so that you all can see that too. Thanks for watching.
http://youtube.com/watch?v=zIQyvbSpI10
Karrie
Oh...my...gosh! Your Adam looks so much like my Jason, just flashed forward a couple of years! He even makes the same facial expressions! They always crack me up, for some reason.
His eyebrows practically disappear into his hairline, and he'll have this maniacal grin on his face. Sometimes when he does this, he'll grind his teeth, too.
Sorry, but the similarity was just really striking! I'm getting a digital camera next month (finally) and I'll have to post a picture, so you can see what I mean. The only thing is that Jason's hair is a shade lighter blond.
Well, I think thats a very common response to too many questions asked of someone on the spectrum. Sharlet does the exact same humming thing whenever she becomes stressed from hearing too much going on around her. Obviously she has very little language though.He IS gorgeous!
Actually, I thought that was a pretty demanding conversation! But maybe it is b/c I accomodate T too much ... ? Dunno.
BTW, "How soon I forget," TOO TRUE. I get occasional reminders ... and they are like a new slap in the face each time.
Thanks for the quick responses and the compliments.
Allegra...Addison is going to be 2 on Aug 17th. So he is 22 months old. His language is behind but he doesn't qualify for services here. They are going to re-evaluate him in Sept. He is in speech therapy privately. He has gained a lot of words but his articulation is not so good.
Evie..I would love to see a pic of your son!!
Karrie
I think he did well! True, his ASD may have been "showing", but I think most folks who are not aware of ASDs might have just assumed that he was tired and grouchy. That was the effect it had on me, anyways, but being an ASD hawk, yeah, I could see some of the traits. In my opinion, he communicates very well! I wonder if he was truly overloaded or just tired and wanting to be left alone...I agree with Fred -- but was not sure how to express it.
A tired kid, a bad day, leave me alone, man.
Before January and beginning to dx, I SURE would not have said, AHA! Autism!
Wow he really acted like my Leo when he gets upset and cranky or wants to not be talked to, he did really well though and I agree with the others communicates really well, I'm glad you posted the video, it really was like my son.I too would have thought just cranky and tired until I started learning more about the spectrum. So, I guess I would not say flaming (except to all of us EXPERTS!
All in all, I thought he did well! Maybe that's not what you want to hear though. I will say that the facial grimaces definitely are not NT. My ds does that as well - and that usually means that we need to talk about how he is feeling and do something to help him get those feelings under control. Not always, but I can usually tell...
You know Fred...I don't really know. I do know that today was the first time I put a camera in his face and expected him to perform persay. I just realized that my digital camera did this so jump on it. I did another video later on after that one and he was performing more naturally (if there is such a thing with him) but I expected less of him and he was "showing off" for the camera and spinning and also saying that he didnt want addison in the picture....only him...LOL
Karrie
YOu know...a lot of you are right. I looked at it again and he really didn't do THAT bad. I think sometimes us parents are more critical maybe? I definately agree with snoop though that the facial grimaces are not NT...LOL GOtta love that kid though. Thanks everyone....especially saying that he did well...it's encouraging.
Snoopywoman......Yea...you like that vocal tap dancing that I do??? (reffering to the end how I switched gears)...LMAO... I'm sure we all have learned how to do this to prevent meltdowns...LOL
Karrie
Oh, how could you not love him! He is adorable.
Yes we parents are more focused on symptoms and more critical. It is our job, after all.
He's a lovely lad. I didn't have the sound on so can't comment on the questions, but remember that being verbal doesn't mean he's not on the spectrum.Yes, I liked the vocal tap dancing! Sometimes you just need to say it the RIGHT way!
The grimaces are the thing that set ds apart the most. I am actually thinking about carrying around a mirror and showing him how he looks when he does this. I have NO idea if that would work - but he looks scary when he does this. And, it is often directed at other kids (particularly younger ones who are looking like they might take one of his toys). This scares other kids away - although not my dd! She just stands there with her hands on her little hips and tells him not to look like that!
Yup - we all learn what works. I too know that if he is getting that look that a meltdown may be coming our way. Dh will often yell at him for looking that way and thus provoke a meltdown. I, on the other hand, am more likely to say, "Wow. You look upset - is there something I can do to help? Because your face right now is scaring me - it doesn't look very nice." Often this will snap him out of it - but not always, of course!
I think he did awesome - and he is very cute!
That's my kid right there. Though he has learned to ignore me more andIf my Adam gets to that face and you ask one more question it is meltdown mode. That is how I know to stop. His dad and I agrue about this all of the time, because I stop and he won't, then gets mad that Adam had a meltdown.
He did very very well. And yes, I do the same thing with my word play too. I guess we all learn what works.
P.S. He is very cute.