Sad to say, the songs on the radio in February of 1991 were all war songs from the Viet Nam era. We had just started the FIRST Gulf War. My postpartum blues all focused on the issue of whether or not my new baby boy would have to go to war in 18 years. I cried EVERY time I heard "Fighting Soldiers in the Sky," which played every five minutes! In fact, one of the first things I felt when I found out he had hearing loss (his first official dx) was relief -- relief that this would keep him out of the Draft. Of course, he could never be drafted now, should that be reinstituted, so there IS some silver lining to ASD!
Do you remember the song that was playing when you first brought you little ones home?
I was cleaning my garage last month and found the CD my wife made for our ride home. We played John Lennon’s Beautiful boy. I put it on my space, it is so appropriate for him.
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That's great that you do though! We had an hour drive home from the hospital in the city. We didn't go to our local hospital because of the twin/higher risk thing. I just remember spending the entire car ride praying that they stayed asleep (they did!) because I didn't know what I could do if they started crying! No No song here but i do remember When i was in the hospital And i was pushing the nurse went to turn off the tv.. and i yelled at her not to because general hospital was on and i had to watch it.. So i wathced and pushed at the same time.. LOL I just remember that song by Five for Fighting playing a lot while I was pregnant, is it called '100 years' or something? Just one of those songs that brings the reality of your lifetime to the forefront. How you feel when you're 15, then 32, etc. and how fast life goes by......Well ... the first thing I played for T after we got home from India was Beatles! DH wanted o start her on Rockabilly, but I beat him to it!As far as song that was playing - I don't think we turned on the radio for the 5 minute drive home for either of our kids! But I have special songs - one is "Crocodile Rockin'" by Elton John. My dh and I went to a Billy Joel/Elton John concert when I was 36 weeks pregnant. I actually brought pillows to cover my tummy to mute the loudness as I worried about making my child deaf in utero - but we were pretty far away. Anyway, I had to go up and down 35 stairs to go to the potty (which I had to do at least 3 times during the concert) and after my last trip (and during Crocodile Rockin') I started having contractions! I didn't tell my dh because I thought he would make us leave - and after the concert, on the hour trip home, I told him. The contractions subsided mid-way home and I just put my feet up and drank lots of water! Another song is Pachelbel's Canon in D - that was played at our wedding and I had it played all throughout my labor as a calming effect. But then, once we started pushing I asked for this cool handpipe music (I don't remember if that's the right name of the instrument) that we had gotten in San Antonio. It was more upbeat and the doctors and nurses liked it too! Geez, I don't remember any music! I think it is great that John remembers! I think I was too paranoid about being responsible for a little life. About the Draft thing.. I don't know about that, but my husband did recruiting several years ago. In light of recent events, I am sure that the standards slipped, but it used to be that kids on the spectrum couldn't get in unless they had a waiver. You needed a highschool equivalent, not a GED, You couldn't take any medications for ADHD like ritalin after the age of 14, etc, etc. No I don;t remember but I think it is awesome you and your wife remember though.Oh my...this was hard when Mason was born! He was a preemie and I had to leave the hospital without him. As long as there was room in the hospital they let me stay there, but there was 1 night they didn't have the room and I had to leave and I will never forget because I get into the car and my DH started turning the station and the song "How Do I Live Without You?" started playing...I remember the tears just started pouring down my face! I don't recall which artist was singing, just those words going over and over in my mind! It was so sad, but luckily he got to come home 2 weeks later!ALL boys MUST register for the draft at age 18. Even if they are in such poor condition with multiple disabilities that they cannot move. But that doesn't mean they actually get drafted. They get a 4F classification. Which means they duly registered but were considered unfit. Yes, kids on the spectrum COULD be considered fit. But my boy also has moderate hearing loss, too, so he is partially deaf, which would alone disqualify him. He also has poor functional language and skills. I also believe an IQ score of below 59 will get a 4F classificatio, too. My son does not have that, but he COULD get a poor IQ score if he were to take a fully verbal IQ test because his language is so impaired. The truth is, if a draft inspector spent a minute with my son, he'd give him a 4F. That's not true of all ASD teens, but it is of mine.I just remembered that my own mother often spoke about the song that was hot the week I was born in January of 1950 -- "Put Another Nickel In." Funny, but the pop song that played over and over again the week a child is born apparently is a memory trigger for lots of parents.Copyright Autism-PDD.net |