Thank You Yolanda,
I know that like everything else with my son its a process and usually a slow one, maybe he is just not ready, though he is showing some signs, Ill keep trying.
In the past we had social stories written for him, spent an entire day in the bathroom, playing games, reading books, ready to catch him starting to pee or poo so we can direct him to do it in the toilet. He's watched his dad and I pee and poop in the toilet ourselves. When he poops in his underwear, I make him put the poop in the toilet and help clean himself and underwear up. He likes to flush the toilet, but I do not allow him to do this if there is nothing in there to flush.
We have taken away things that he likes to do and have given him rewards. On our counter, at his eye level, is a toy and computer game we know he wants to play, ready to be played as soon as he poops in the toilet.
The most important thing I think to do is keep talking to him, telling him how dirty and dangerous having poop in your underwear can be. With Hunter, he'll continue to play with dirty pants, sitting on it so long it's caked in his underwear or makes his bottom red. It's very frustrating because his poop crumbles and falls down his legs and unto the floor. I vaccum many times a day to keep the house clean. His bottom also gets itchy because of it and then he gets poop all over his hands and I must wipe and spray things down all the time.
I hope you have better luck with your son and by the time he's my son's age this won't be a concern anymore. I've communicated with another mom who got her son to poop in the toilet by giving him suppositories. I have bought some, but am hesitant to use it. Mostly my hesitation is explaining it to him. I know my son understands me, he just doesn't have the words yet to say the right things all the time. But something's got to give. He'll be 8 in December and I've left him alone, without harping over him before he goes, only after, in hopes he'll just do it on his own as some kids seem to do. But he's not. I'm due with my second child in a week, and having pieces of poop on the floor is just unacceptable.
Hope this helps! Good luck!
Yolanda
I have a 4 yo HFA son, We have been working with him on the potty training thing and to no avail. Any suggestions?