Overly Social | Autism PDD

These are really quite charming and sweet episodes.. I bet most of the recieving people think it is cute too.. Although embarassing to mom.. Jenkx I love the checkers story you shoudl write that in her baby book.. How funny..i think my daughter can be over social at times! I am 22 and my fiance is 27, we have  a lot of friends mostly men that come to visit from time to time! The minute they sit down she is right there on there lap! if they have a hat on she takes it off of them and puts it on! same with glasses.  Veroniqua is very affectionate! Which seems to be very rare, She hugs her bus driver and just about anyone else adult or child that she has contact with for over a minute! We ran into the princable from her school at the video store and she practicall draged me to her for a hug! As for a solution I have not found one! But sometimes a hug from a child can Make your Day!Once, at a Cracker Barrell restaurant, my tiny autistic daughter challenged two unsespecting elderly men that were minding their own business to a game of checkers.( the restaurant always keeps a board out). Puzzled, but amused, one of the gentlemen agreed. She promptly took all the checkers she could off the board and said, "Oh, Im so sorry, but you lose." and gave him a hug.

She does these kinds of things all the time.

Once, she cried because the bag boy at grocery store said he wanted to take her home with him because she was so cute, but didn't. She kept begging to go with him.

And there has been several times at resaurants when she decided she liked the people at other tables better and decided to go sit with them. My kids could fill a library with all of the embarassing moments they have caused me!!    I  just get a chuckle out of most of them!!   How boring life would be if I had "normal"  kids!!      Still some things are socially unacceptable or can be dangerous....like wanting to go home with the bagboy because he said you were cute!    Yikes!!     That is why it is so vitally important that we teach our kids every nuance of social communication......others seem to just get it.....ours take things too literal  or  are simply too innocent to know what could be wrong with touching or kissing etc.  

We have a big job,  but  it has its builtin bonuses each time they make us laugh!!
Keep up the good work!!

bonnie
Well, this does not describe my son so far, but I have heard others say they have overly social children too. From what I understand w/ the spectrum, it's one extreme or the other. Overly or under sensitive to sound, sight, touch, etc. Delayed in speech or ahead in speech and even reading (which would be aspergers like). I'm not an expert by any means, this is just from what I've read or heard from others. Now my son does love strange men though. He will be in a room of kids and ignoring them all, and a big man he's never seen will walk in and my ds will just walk up to him babbling his nonsense and even try to climb on his lap if sitting. It's kind of bothersome, because I don't want him seeking out strange men! I'd rather he want to seek out kids his age. Hopefully your son will turn his odd social ways into something more appropriate. I love it when my son is social at all, even if I don't understand it. Anything is something.  

Sounds alot like my son Quinn who's now 8 yrs old and dx'd with PDD-NOS, he can be overly social sometimes. Luckily most of the people that we have come across find him to be cute don't seem to mind it.  It helps that he comes out with some funny things that make people laugh.

 Quinn used to say to women cashiers "You're cute" or Can I give you a hug or kiss?" Most of them would just smile at him but, I would be so embarrased sometimes that I would just want to dive under the shopping cart. He is strting to be more appropriate as he is getting older. There are still times when he is overly social and I role play different situations with him to help him understand what is appropriate and what isn't.  I also try to remember that I am shy and he is not.  I am soo happy that he is not shy like me.

I think this will pass as your son gets older. It's great that your son is socializing with people.  It sounds like he has a good way of dealing with people like my son. Hang in there.

                                                               Angela

 In the past couple of months Ryan (4yrs.) has gone from being not social in public at all, to now..he is what I would call overly social.

If we go in a store and  there is a man by..he will just keep say" Hi buddy" I guess he gets that phrase from in the past men saying it to him. He just won't stop saying it, and last week when he got his hair cut..he was kissing the lady on her arm.

I guess in some ways I am pleased he is trying to be social..but sometimes he's just carries it too far. It is like he went from one extreme to the other.

Has anyone else had this same experience?

What did you do to find a medium ground if there is one? Do you think this will pass. Sometimes I feel it makes him stand out even more.

 

Thanks,

Kelly

Yeah, mine used to hug the pizza man...how embarassing!  (there was a time where he was at our house quite a bit, so maybe he just felt like family?!?!)
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