My son is not yet diagnosed. . . .There is this six year old girl and four year old boy in are apartments. My son is three and bigger then the both of them. . . .They tease him while he does not quite understand I do and it make me irrked. The little girl who use to play with my son has pushed him. She will call my sons name and he will run next door to the little boy (neighbor) my son will run to the door as they will call his name and tell him to come over and the little girl shuts the door in my sons face. We live on the first floor the kids today were on the second dangling a flap on a poll calling my sons name. . .they were going to pull it up as he ran after it. She has came to me and said that my son is wierd because he does not talk. I told her I was sending him to school and she said kids who dont talk do not belong there. . . .I know what she says is a product of her parents. . . .
I went out to both of the kids and told them if you call my sons name its going to be because you want to play with him. If they continue I would talk to their parents. Maybe I am over reacting but their mean to him. . .
Any tips on how to deal with the little kids who tease him?
Having worked in property management, my first question is why didn't you discuss this with the kids parents first before even attempting to talk to the kids? The kids could turn this around on you and tell their parents that you were trying to tell them what to do. When you live in an apartment building and have a problem with a minor, you take it up with the responsible adult. You tell the adult the problem and say if it continues you will take it up with management. As a way to protect yourself I do suggest you send a letter to management immediately detailing what has been going on between your child and the other two other kids. Put in there everything you said to those two kids and the time and date when you said it. That way management has a written record on the incident. Now management will probably tell you to talk to the kids parents. After you do that, send management another letter stating that you did, on such and such date at around such and such time. And state what was said. I would do this immediately. As it is you are trying to beat the other tenant from notifying management in writing first.
Tammy
I did briefly mention it to management the other day in passing and she told me next month the little girl is moving. When discussing if I was going to sign the new lease or not... I all I said was he was being teased since all their are is two kids in the apartments my sons age she knew who I was speaking about. She likes us alot and has even researched autism for us in an effort to help. . . .
The boy next door is okay when the girl is not around! The boy mom is aware of what the children are doing she is usually right there as they do this stuff. . .
My reaction to them was an immeadiate one its hard to feel comfortable to walk my son out side when they do their stuff to get his attention.
Thats good that management knows about the issues with that one kid. Makes you wonder if they got an eviction or if they are just moving or what. It will make the situation better when they do move. That is generally the way it is with kids. One is the instigator. I have been in that situation. In one apartment building I would not let my kids play with any of the other kids because you could tell these other kids in the building would end up in juvenile detention. Makes you wonder why the mom doesn't stop the behaviour. Or maybe their mom is the problem.
Tammy
andysmama,
What Tammy said about the parents is right. The reason I say this is that I have 2 older NT children and I have raised them to the best of my ability, and as much as I would like to believe that they would never do such a thing I have to admit...kids are rotten sometimes and I for one would certainly want to know about it if my children were acting that way. I have a valid question here...WHere is the 6 year olds parents while she is playing outside???? I never felt comfortable enough to let my other 2 children play outside unattended at this age. I had an incident once with my son when he was younger with a child that was delayed. The parents came to me (this happend at school) and told me that my son was teasing their son. I can tell you that I was first of all SHOCKED that my son was acting that way, embarrased to say the least and I was VERY appologetic. After I found out what my son was doing I handled it at home and also told the teachers at school that I was aware of behavior that he has been doing and that if they catch him doing anything like that again 1. I am to get a phone call...2. I expect them to give him out some punishment at school and 3. I would disapline him at home also. I also told the parents of my plan of action and gave them my son's teachers name so that if it happend again that child could immediately inform his teacher. But you see....unless those parents had come to me..I would have not had ANY CLUE that my son would ever have done such a thing. I sat my son down and had a very long talk with him about how cruel it is to be this way toward other children. You know this happend years before I had his little brother with PDD-NOS. He remembers what he did too years ago and that talk we had and he has mentioned to me more than once how bad he feels now especially since his brother may get teased now. I also have to say that those parents that came to me were not threatening at all but handled it so well and gave me the benifit of the doubt that I didnt' know what was going on...and I really appreciated the way they handled it. Take care and I hope things look up soon,
Karrie
There is a kid in my Son's summer school class who thinks he is hillarious with the things he says. He's gotten into trouble with their Teacher, because the Teacher has witnessed it, but i don't know if the kid's parents know anything about it. I also don't know if my Son is the only target.My Son didn't even tell me about it, their Teacher did. She said the other kid is a "handful" & that she's going to have to have a talk with his parents, but I don't know if she has or not. I'm going to look into it though....
God Bless you & your Familes & keep you all safe!
LINDA...aka Tony'sMom...aka MWN64