Hello my friends,
I posted about this on the "parents of autistic children" board, but thought I'd post it here too.
We went to see my Granddaughter yesterday (she's almost 6y/o), & I told the other grandmother that Tony (our 9 y/o HFA Son), Nikki (my 16 y/o "step"Daughter ) & Riley (my Granddaughter's newborn Brother) were out in the car waiting to see if they could come in...I told her that twice, she acted as though she didn't hear me, so a few minutes later my Hubby made SURE she heard him, & said it again..LOUDLY, & she shook her head & gave a sour look & said "NO!". Now you see, usually they let Tony & Nikki in to see Rayna, they know how close all of them are. BUT since Riley has been born, the other grandmother doesn't want Rayna to know that she has a new lil Brother...the other grandmother has Rayna calling HER mom...not my Daughter who IS Rayna's biological Mommy. They have Rayna calling my Daughter by her first name... BUT they DO allow Rayna to call ME "Grammy" & my Hubby "Pappaw". They also had their lawyer there...why?? I really don't know, they've never had her there before while we were visitng. My GUESS is that they KNEW we'd be upset with them for NOT letting Tony, Nikki, or Riley in to see Rayna, so they might've thought there'd be trouble. But we've NEVER been violent with them. We're not violent people. Don't get me wrong, when she told us that the kids couldn't come in to visit with Rayna, I WANTED to go upside her head with a bat...but of course, I didn't do that. I had to go out to the car to tell Nikki & Tony that they could NOT come in to see Rayna... Well, THAT did it, Tony had a HUGE meltdown & there was NOTHING I could od to make him feel the least bit better!! I was SOOOO TOCKED OFF at them for doing that to innocent kids!!! We only stayed to visit for an hour, even though we were supposed to get 2 hours with her (Rayna). But since Tony was having a meltdown, we didn't want Nikki to have to try dealing with it for too long. All the way home BOTH Nikki & Tony cried. Riley is too young to know what was going on THANK GOD!! But he won't be forever... He slept the whole time, so thankfully Tony's meltdown didn't scare him. But when we got home I had to rock Tony in our rocker/recliner for a LOOOONG time just letting him cry, Hubby held Nikki as well. Tony kept asking why they were so mean, & kept saying how much he loves & misses Rayna. All I could tell him was to somehow find it in his heart to forgive them, because that's what God would want us to do. It was just pure evil of them to do that to innocent children!! I knew they were spiteful, but I didn't think they'd take that out on the kids!
Well, that's all for now...I'm just sooo upset.
God Bless you & your Families & keep you all safe!
Linda...aka Tony'sMom...aka MWN64
Psychological harm? I think so..........if there is a next time, bring Tony in, just to show the lawyer! and explain............and maybe slip in a long conversation about morals and use Tony as an example of their spitefulness and even hatred! Call them out on it.............