Hello my friends,
I told you yesterday, that we were to see my almost 6 y/o Granddaughter yesterday, & that I wasn't sure if the other grandparents of my Granddaughter would let my HFA Son, my "step"Daughter or my newborn Grandson in to see my Granddaughter...The last time Tony (my HFA Son) & Nikki (my "step"Daughter) were allowed to see Rayna (my Granddaughter) was Christmas time of last yr. Well, anyway, we got there, & asked if the kids could come in to see Rayna too, & she shook her head & gave me a sour look & said "NO!". I had to go out to the car & tell them that she wouldn't let them come in to see Rayna. Tony had a horrible meltdown, & there was NOTHING I could do to make him feel any better. Tony & Nikki had to stay out in the car & wait for us to get through visiting with Rayna. It was HORRIBLE!! The other grandparents had thier lawyer sitting there too...I don't know why...I guess to make sure no trouble started because they knew we'd be upset at them for not letting the kids come in and see Rayna. Tony was so broken hearted , & I wanted to go upside the other grandmother's head, but I'm not a violent person, so of course, I didn't do that. I kept going out to the car to make sure that Nikki could handle Tony's meltdown, PLUS my infant grandson was in the car too, but he slept through the whole thing. THAT'S what it was in a nutshell, the other grandparents don't want Rayna to know that she now has a new lil Brother. They have her calling THEM Mom & Dad!! NOT my Daughter who IS Rayna's Mommy biologicly!!! I'm so upset. It was just pure evil of them to do that!! Tony kept asking why they were being so mean, & saying how much he misses Rayna (they were always really close). All I could tell him was to try to forgive them, because that's what God would want us to do. When we got home, I had to rock Tony in our rocker/recliner for a Loooong time. He just kept crying, the poor lil guy. So did Nikki, my Hubby was holding her (even though she's 16 y/o) & I was holding Tony. Riley was still sleeping. Thank GOD Riley is too young to know what was going on. But he won't ALWAYS be too young.............
I have to compose myself now.....
Just thought I'd give you all the "gist" of what happened yesterday.
God Bless you & your Families & keep you all safe!
Linda...aka Tony'sMom...aka MWN64
I don't understand something about this. You have said in the past that the grandparents have never let him see her after they got custody. What made you think they would change their mind this time? Do they do or say something to you to give you that impression? You said he had a meltdown in the car while waiting on you to get done with the visit? And the 16 year old could handle him during his meltdown? If that is the case you are lucky. I know with Jeffrey it takes at least two adults to restrain him when he is in full meltdown mode. So consider yourself lucky. And he also will continue the meltdown for a day or two. So I don't understand why you took them. Maybe Tony was tired of waiting in the car or maybe you got his hopes up way too high?
Tammy
Ummm, nooooo I didn't say that at all, I said they USUALLY LET Tony & Nikki in to see Rayna, but since RILEY has been born they don't want Rayna to know that she has a Brother...HE'S the reason they wouldn't let them in this time. I DID however say that they sent papers saying they'd only allow Sharon, Hubby, & me in to see Rayna, but they;ve done that before, then when we got there, they said to bring the kids so they could play with Rayna. I'm sorry, I guess I'm so upset about all this that I wasn't clear.
And NO Nikki COULDN'T handle Tony's meltdown, THAT'S why we had to leave so early.
Sorry....not thinking clear, not being clear I, guess.
God Bless you & your Family & keep you all safe!
Linda...aka Tony'sMom...aka MWN64