"I HATE YOU" | Autism PDD

i recently went through a similar thing with my daughter. i picked her up from school one day a few months ago, and her teacher informed me that my daughters favorite new phrase was "F--- YOU!!!" apparently she had been saying it all day, and the other kids picked up on it too.  all the teachers thought it was funny, but i was devastated. i wanted to crawl under a rock.

my daughter continued to repeat that phrase, at random, for about a month. whenever she would say it, i would tell her to not say it, and say something else instead but that never worked. eventually she got bored of it and moved on to something else.

my biggest concern during the whole ordeal was where she heard it! i later found out that she got it from my brother and his girlfriend, who had been living with us. they were going through relationship problems at the time and that particular phrase was very common between them. i dont care if they talk like that, but i was really upset when i found out they had done it within earshot of my child, who was learning to talk and communicate!! but i guess they learned their lesson.

Jeffrey likes to give the tv the middle finger and I believe he picked this up either from a kid or from school because I have never done that.  Have I cussed out the computer when it doesn't work right?  Yeah but who hasn't.  But I do have to watch myself more closely when they are around.

Hey Nelle, can I borrow Jared?  So the next time people look at me strange he can explain to them how my kids are.  Sounds like a smart and great kid there.  You must be so proud.

Tammy

 

My son Takoda who is HFA has developed this as his new catch phrase. He heard this statement from his 3 y/o cousin. His cousin uses it to just get a rise out of people but Takoda is using it in place of conversation. I'm guessing by the number of times he repetes "I HATE YOU" that it's his newest stim?

He said it tonight when he met a friend of mines new boyfriend. And of course he said it over a dozen times. What surprised (shocked) me was before I even attemped to explain Jared my 10 y/o said, "He doesn't really mean that he is autistic and this is a behavior that he is stuck on right now. If he didn't like you he won't even talk to you."

I think his matter-of-fact way of explaining it must have worked because Jared didn't get the stupid statements or questions that I always get. The guy just said, "OK."

Has anyone else had the I-hate-you phrase and do you have any advice how to get past this one? He says it to people in grocery lines and in bible meetings it's really getting old.

Nelle

we have an "I Hate" thing right now too, so I feel your pain.

 

I hate you, I hate (this, that) I hate (him, her)..

It's SO frustrating, but I haven't found a way that really works. I tried saying "you don't say I Hate.. you need to say I don't like" instead, if he really wanted to hollar that, but --yeah, not so much on the effectiveness spectrum. Lol.

 

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