Momma is in Trouble | Autism PDD
Today I happened upon this social story with illustrations:
http://www.setbc.org/pictureset/resources/swear_words/swear_ words1.pdf - page 1
http://www.setbc.org/pictureset/resources/swear_words/swear_ words2.pdf - page 2
Shawn has asked if he can swear when he is an adult. The other day he said grandma said a bad word. I asked him what she said and he said sh**. I said ohhh you said a bad word. We both laughed and agreed that while you should try and find better words to use that sometimes those words just come out. And that he will refrain from using that language in front of adults because it WILL cause him to get into trouble(something that he doesn't like). Oh by the way Shawn is 12yo and ASD.We of course have had the occasional words... My NT Alston learner F***er last year from a girl at school. Normally they will repeat whats said in the heat of the moment... But my Hunt is obessed with talking about Poop, Butts, Stink, etc.. Ty was hanging out with me in the garage last saturday and I dropped something and said under my breath, "Jesus Christ!". For about 3 minutes, the angel boy child ran around repeating my epiteth in the exact same tone of voice as I had done.He quit after awhile and hasn't said it again as I said that this wasn't what God meant when he gave his son that name.My Alec has a tendency to say"oh sh*t" and "god-dow it" (godd*mn it) in the correct context, especially the later since it is one of mommy's favorite curses.
When my parents took me to register me for Catholic Sunday school at age 4, they held the registration at a table outside the church auditorium. Right behind, the table, on the door to the auditorium, someone had written the lovely graffiti F____ YOU. My 2 year old hyperlexic brother saw it, read it, and kept repeating F____ YOU over and over again in front of the nuns. Back then (1970) no one could ever imagine a 2 year old that could read, so everyone just looked at my mom as some evil being who was teaching her baby those nasty words. The more my parents tried to get him to be quiet, the louder he said it. There were a lot of other parents standing around as well. My parents still look back at this as one of their most embarressing moments ever.
[QUOTE=Emma'smom]When my daughter was about 4 she only said a handful of words and said none of them spontaneously. One day when I was in the kitchen, I dropped something out of the refrig. I started to say, "Son of a ...." then censored myself because she was standing right there. Just as I stopped, she looked at me and said B****" I had to laugh b/c here was a kid that would literally go days without speaking a word finishing my sentence for me. [/QUOTE]
Too nuts! Our kids ARE so funny in their choices of what to learn ...
We were told that one teacher "did NOT belong at (insert preschool name)" quite snobbishly. And also that a child in her class had "two Mommies, and that is NOT RIGHT!" ... the gossip that goes on in front of kids ...
I am lol at this topic....Quinn was playing in his room with his transformers...I overheard him say "what the hell are you doing optimus prime"(one of his transformers) I was trying so hard not to let him hear me laughing
I'm
glad to say. He had quite the potty mouth (all echolalia - no functional
speech) when he moved in. The first words he ever clearly said in our
home
were, "What the f---?!"
Because he already knows all those words (and we've been able to, for
some
strange reason, make him understand that they're not okay words for
kids to
say), I don't really have to sensor myself. However, when/if I manage to
have a baby, I'm going to have to clean up my own language for sure!
Don's quite cute - if I say, exasperated, "oh for f---'s sake!" (terrible
language, I know - I was raised with bad language, I come from a lower
class
redneck/white trash family
), he'll come up and ask me what's wrong,
and if I'm okay.
One of the funniest crude things Don's said appropriately was, he walked
into the bathroom after his foster brother had been in there, erm, doing
his business, and blurted out, top of his lungs, "Jesus Christ Stink!"
Well I got to the bottom of this today. My son picked this up at school not from me. We have a boy in his class who repeats everything and that's who he learned it from. Same kid taught him to say shut up a few weeks back. I didn't make the contection until I told one of the aides about this morning.My little one was just starting to talk and then he had a week off for spring break, first day back to pre-k he said sh.t, I was tickled that he was verbal but at the same time embarassed, here he had stayed home with mom all week and the only productive thing he picked up was a 4 letter word. That would be the worst thing he would pick up from mom though
Spectrummom 4Matthew -- If the middle finger thing becomes a significant problem, here's an illustrated social story about it that you could use: http://www.speakingofspeech.com/PDFs/MiddleFingerStory.pdf I'm laughing my a#$ off right now! Too funny.... [QUOTE=Allegra]derocas, sorry but I have to say lolol
Yeah it's pretty funny. I really wish my son would analyze social situations as much as he analyzes bad language
Patty I too had to LOL! My son at 3 picked up my friends Hubby's fav. catch phrase: "Son of a B****". As embarrassing and often very hilarious as it was, I secretly was excited that he was picking up words at all! But we did correct it, eventually My son actually knows almost every curse word. He attended a school for children with emotional issues and one child was very happy to teach all the kids his extensive vocabulary. The other day my son asked if urine was a bad word. When I said no, why? He relpied,"S-H-I-T(he actually spelled it) is a bad word so I was wodering if urine was,Then he asked,"Can I say OH URINE!?".........How do I respond to that?
I just told him that even if it's not a "bad" word it is certainly not friendly talk so no it's not appropriate. Patty We live in the bible belt and my dd says "Jesus Cwist!" and "I can't find the damn (whatever)." Bad habits I picked up from my friend ... OTOH, she has come up with two zingers overheard (quite obviously, from other teachers) at daycare, about teachers there ... This topic is so pertinent to me today. I was greeted at the door by Matthew's pre-school teacher again. She told me that during gym, which was indoors today due to rain, that Matthew was playing with a bunch of boys and at one point he looked right at the teacher and gave her the finger. !!! This is NOT something that is done in my home and my son is generally here or with Grandma who would definitely NOT do that. Fortunately the teacher seemed to realize that Matthew got this behavior from one of the other children that day and just asked that I quiz him about it when I got home and let her know. Matthew was put in time out for this behavior but threw a tantrum, of course, because he did not realize why he was being punished. The things our kids go through!!! Oh ... and Matthew's favorite phrase of frustration is "Geez, Louise!" Yes, Jasper has been overheard in his bedroom more than once saying, "Oh,
Sh** happens...
My son has picked up swear words now and then, but luckily it never became a long-term problem. We do have problems with excessive toilet talk (butt and poop are such funny words, you know), so we have a rule that those words belong in the bathroom. If he wants to say those words, he has to go to the bathroom. Usually, he'd rather stay with us and talk nice. If it turns into a long-term problem for your son, you can try this social story: http://www.speakingofspeech.com/PDFs/PottyWordsStory.pdf Good luck with everything. Guess what my older son said tonight, not once but three times??? F*** Y** Um yeah mom uses that expression from time to time along with a few other choice words. Um do I tell the teacher he learned a new word or that he used two words together?? He said it so calmly and then looked at us for a reaction. Dad laughed of course and then he said it again. Later while we watched a movie and praticed our words, instead of saying unicorn, he said f*** Y**. Bad Mommy!
today thinking of your little kiddo saying, "F*** Y**!" I'm even laughing as I
write this. It's awful, I know, but something about it tickles me to no end.
Payne - Thank God - has heard them, but we don't make a big deal of it when someone slips b/c then he doesn't think it's funny and repeat it...
derocas, sorry but I have to say lolol
crap!" when he's playing with legos or something. It IS really funny to hear
an expression like that come out in his funny little voice, but I never let on.
He seems to have moved on by himself. I've been hearing, "Oh my
goodness!" instead these days--which is just as funny as he sounds like a
little old lady Ah thank gawd I'm not the only one. I am going to try to be more careful watching what i say. So far today, he hasn't repeated it. We live in a very religious area as well and I know this would not go over well at school.
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