son swearing
| Back to Autism Information >> Next Topic | ||
|
I had to go to school this morning to give Keith his lunch that he forgot. The principal told me that Keith has been swearing a lot at school and he is getting complains from teachers and students! This is not permitted and it shouldn't be. Keith is in a parocial school to make it all worse. I will take responsibility. I have been swearing a lot the last month ... so has my husband and Keith's brother and sister. We had a few BIG fights at the house and everyone lost control. We currently evaluating our situation and how to handle it better here on out. Eliminating or making it a rare slip up to swear is the first change! The second influence is the music. Keith is a 13 year old and he enjoys the current teen music. Some of it is ok some of it is on the line and some of it is just not exceptable by my husband and I ......but we cannot monitor every move any of the kids make. We just do our best and give them a little freedom (less than the other kids they know) but we don't want them growing up in a bubble. Keith is very stubborn . It takes great effort to change his mind but it can be done. Any advise on how to help me discuss this with Keith will be appreaciated (sp).Thanks so much. Perhaps a social story may help? Here is one that you'd probably want to modify for his age, but it might give you some ideas. Good luck! http://www.speakingofspeech.com/PDFs/PottyWordsStory.pdf Doodersma, Thank you? that is a great start for me to go over that social story with him! He will think it is to young so I will tell him to try to stick to the main idea and not critque it!It is young, sorry! You know, maybe that might be an advantage. I know my son hates to hear that something he is doing is what younger kids do. Might make him stop right quick! Dooder's Ma According to the NAS-UK, swearing and other antisocial behaviors can be a reaction to stress. Helping your son cope with stress better might help. The problem at our house is not exactly swearing but saying "butt" etc. We say that that kind of language belongs in the bathroom, and say he can go be alone in the bathroom if he needs to wants to say those words. While googling I saw that this technique has been used with older kids who swear. Good luck with everything! I just thought of another thing. If he swears too much, you could take away a favorite CD. If he starts keeping it under better control, then he can earn it back. If it's any consolations Janis....I was swearing this morning when I couldn't get my printer to work right, ds was in the room watching cartoons.....while I was trying to print out my english essay that was due this morning....well the papaer kept getting jammed and I lost my patience.......to top it all off I had to drop ds off at my ex's house on the way to my 9am class....I told ds that I messed up and should not have used the language that I used....he said "I don't remember what you said mommy" I hope he didn't and doesn't remember and tell my ex.....even if he does i will admitt that i messed up and if the ex has an attitude about it I will remind him of the time that ds came home and said "mommy daddy slammed his van door shut and said @#$%$ @@#$%. I have a very good friend with an 11yo VERY HIGH FUNCTIONING Aspie son. He has been swearing all his school life. NOTHING they've done has worked to stop it, including YEARS of punishment then YEARS of positive reinforcement. I believe, in his case, he learned somewhere along the line that swearing gives him positive social feedback from his peers and no amount of intervention from adults can take away this ONE way he has of appearing cool with his peers. It's his the one "social skill" that works for him every time. It's almost become like a resistant stim. Of course, it would probably be a good idea for you to have your son screened for Tourette's. There's a form of Tourette's where the sufferers call out cusses all that time. It's an uncontrollable tic and can oftentimes be helped with medication. It's at least worth talking to a doctor who is an expert in autism about it. Also, you should IMMEDIATELY ask for an FBA in school so that they can develop an effective BIP and teach you to adjust that BIP for use at home. If this is a tic, the FBA may show that there's no pattern and you can bring that information to the doc. |
||
|
Copyright Autism-PDD.net
|
