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My son is diagnosed with Pdd. He is 27 months old. I just
want to know if my son will ever go to a normal school and be like
other children. He is very loving and affectionate towards his family.
He is non verbal but seems to understand certain things I ask him to
do.He can say the word ball and maybe two other words, but He does not
use them oftenly. When he wants something he will show someone what he
wants. He will be starting EI and it will take place in a school
environment and I hope it will help my son.
I also have a 24 year old brother who is autistic.
My son is different than by brother so I just want to know what might I
expect. Please can other parents who's child have PDD tell me
what you think.
I have 3 on the spectrum, one with mild PDD. We fully expect her to go to normal school by the time pre k comes (not this school year, but the next). I can only offer you advice and to tell you to stay on top of therapy and school at all times. There is no way for us to tell if your child will go to normal school, because we don't personally know your child. You have to be the one to make that call and to try to mainstream, as we all do. Good luck to you. Please don't hesitate to ask questions, though. We will try to help all we can.
Rachelle EVEN THOUGH every autistic child is different then the other but i agree with rachellah you have to stay on top of early intervention and any services that is available for your child.What state are you in.? i can send you a link for your state with resources. My son is now 4 1/2 and he was dx'd 2yrs ago. at the age of 3 he only spoke 25 words then he started a specialized preschool with speech n ot. therapy. He now has a big vocabulary but i always worked on flashcards with him..he is PDD/MILD.. JUST TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME...AND THIS SITE IS A VERY SUPPORTIVE GROUP ..SO I hope we all can help you..hang in there..cyndieThank you Rachelleh and Cyndie. I am glad i found this site. I need to
talk to people that know what it is that I am going through
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Can anyone tell me what I should do when my son throws his tantrums.
How do I teach him. My husband says he does not have discipline. 
My son also is a very picky eater. I have problems getting him to eat.
So I feed him mashed up vegetables with meats and rice so that I
know he is eating healthy. He likes macaroni and cheese but even though
he does not want to eat that all the time. Does any one have a child
with an eating problem and what do you do in this case.
Hi indoima,
Welcome to the board!! I have a 3 year old son with PDD-NOS. My son is a picky eater too...as a lot of children in the spectrum are. Adam eats the same thing for lunch and dinner just about every day. I give him flinstone vitamins because I worry about his picky eating. He loves most breakfast food as long as it is sweet. LOL I gave up worrying about his pickiness when i realized that he is still healthy. Adam won't eat any veggies except corn and it's not often that he will even eat that. He eats PB&J for lunch every day and for dinner it is chicken nuggets. He won't eat most fruit except apples so I give him juicy juice to drink. Adam seems to mostly like junk food. Chips, cookies, candy..etc. He also has tantrums and meltdowns. I ignore them unless he starts hitting me. Then he goes into time-out. He has slowed down tremendously on the hitting since I started time-out. His tantrums I think just come from frustration from not being able to communicate or sometimes with him it is sensory related and there is nothing that I can do to calm him etc. They end much sooner if I don't pay attention to it. I usually try and figure out what has caused the tantrum so that at a different date I can avoid the situation....for instance one time he threw a tantrum because of the way his clothes felt. Once he started screaming there was no compromising with him...So what I did was from that point on...that particular shirt I no longer put on him again. I know that with adam once he starts throwing a fit there is no stopping it. I have to just ride it out. I just found out with his tantrums that if I ignore it then it seems to go by quicker. Take care and Welcome!!!
Karrie
Hi I have a 5 yr old DS with possible PDD-NOS. He is entering main stream kindy this AUgust (with speech and special ed resource room pullouts). How school goes really depends on a variety of issues, including the needs of the child, the services the district can offer, and the amount of support the child needs and in what areas.
For us, the tantrums got much better as ds aged and his language ability increased. But, what has helped the most was determining what causes his frustrations and what techniques work to get the best behavior out of him. Becuase my son wants to control things, it was important to allow him to make decisions as much as we could so that when something had to be done, he felt like he was making the decision to do it and not being told what to do. We have to be consistant and follow through with the consequences of his decisions as well.
Hi welcome to the board! I have a 2 yr old son who has not been dx'd yet. Going by the online tests I have taken he may be mild autistic or moderate pdd-nos. I'm no doctor so I have no idea where exactly he falls yet.
My son also has tantrums. Luckily it is rare they are really bad or long in duration, but they are very frequent and often biting himself goes along w/ them which I hate! Sometimes I ignore them, other times I try to redirect him. Depending on his reason for the tantrum will depend on what I do for him. We have had a few times where he would tantrum for 20 mins and nothing would stop him. He threw toys around the room, bit himself, tried to push over our coffee table, etc. I'm not saying not to discipine the child. But just be careful as I have some tell me he needs more and harder spankings and then he'll stop acting like a spoiled brat. I do not feel this is true. For one ds is a sweet little boy, and his tantrums seem almost out of place w/ his affectionate personality. I feel there is a good reason for them, regardless if I understand. I am not saying not to discipline, but just be aware it may have nothing to do w/ you spoiling him or whatever crap people like to feed you. Dh one time gave ds a quick couple butt swats during a tantrum, and all it did was make ds react worse and tantrum longer. That was before we understood any of this disorder and thought we were just not being hard enough on ds (listening to well meaning family members). Now he and I both realize we should just do what we feel is right for ds and ignore what others think we should do.
Ds is a picky eater also. He will not eat veggies except every once in awhile he will eat frozen peas, so i offer then daily just in case he goes for it. I also give him a daily vitamin. He will eat some fruits, but mostly just bananas and canned fruit cocktail (which he eats in a certain ordr lol). He eats almost no meat. But he is healthy so I try not to fret. Basically, like mentioned above, he eats the same things every day at each meal w/ little variation. I just always advise to give a vitamin or maybe even pediasure if you are really concerned. Best wishes to you and your child.
Amber
I have a 4 1/2 y/o HFA son who attends a preschool and headstart with spiecal needs and NT kids. He receives ST and OT and is doing very well. I don't know what the long term outlook is because they don't have any elementary services for autistic kids in our small school district.
As far as your sons speech my 4 y/o was nonverbal until age three and nearly a year of ST. He is only one year behind on speech abilities and comprehension now. My other son Dxed ODD was also nonverbal at age two and just started speaking in full sentences right after he turned three. I would recommend ST and see how he does.
Nelle
Both of mine are still in special education. As far as being normal, describe normal. Normal in my household growing up was watching football and rooting for the cowboys. Well we do watch football but Gabe goes by the colors of the team on who will win the game. Now Jeffrey does know who Emmitt Smith and Jerry Jones is
Both of mine were non verbal when they were younger. With Jeffrey he didn't really talk until he was 7. The specialist thought he would never talk. Gabe babbled alot so his speech has improved. Gabe is still very impulsive even tho he can be very outgoing. Both of them still have major safety issues. Gabe loves the computer. Jeffrey only likes it at times. Gabe likes to answer the phone even tho he hasn't been able to do that since he has been grounded. Jeffrey is just now getting to the point where he will talk on the phone for a few seconds. As far as behaviour issues, they both had that when they were younger. Gabe had self injurious behaviours in that he would really scratch himself up good and attempt to blame Jeffrey for it. Jeffrey had self injurious type behaviours too but those were mostly of hitting himself. Now Jeffrey's behaviour, well the bad behaviour did subside for awhile. Gabe's so far hasn't but then again he is very impulsive. I would say for the most part that some behaviours will subside but once they hit those teenage years, watch out. From my experience so far and from everything I have read, these kids do tend to have behaviour issues during the teen years. I was also told years ago by their specialist that when you say no , mean no. If they are acting up take away something that really means something to them. Never punish them for their autistic or pdd-nos behaviour. All you are doing is reinforcing the bad behaviour. You also have to constantly look at their developmental age, not their actual age. If they are 10 and have a developmental age of 3 then of course you will see alot of 3 year old type behaviour. As far as saying your son is nothing like your brother. That can be so suggestive tho. It is very hard for people in general to totally remove themselves from a situation and look at it in a third person point of view. No two kids on the spectrum are alike. What works on one kid wont work on the other. But early intervention is the key. If you have the opportunity to have your child go to school half a day and the other half a day in a day treatment program that deas specifically with his pdd-nos, then go for it. Both of mine did that. And the repetition did help them out greatly. hi indoima , jordon will also only eat corn like karries son and my other son ryan will only eat baby carrots i try to offer these in most meals . i also give them multi vitamin when they will accept it . when it comes to the temper etc now that jordon is 10 i ask him to go up to his room when he is screaming and smashing stuff up, then i try to talk to him when he has calmed down . ryan tends to get angry but then burst in to tears if he has a problem but he rarley shows emotion so it tends to be a shock when this happens . i know it may be hard to be able to put the young ones in their room when tantrums happen but i have found this keeps my stress level down and also if any thing gets broken it is his stuff not mine . take care xx The public meltdowns are the worst! I have never in my life stopped and told another parent HOW to deal with their child while observing a public tantrum, but I WISH I HAD A DIME FOR EVERYONE WHO HAS BUTTED IN WITH MINE!
I don't know if I'll ever get thick enough skin to deal with the unwanted advice!
Nelle when jordon has proper melt downs then its duck and cover . i was thinkingmore on the line of temper tantrums u know screaming and banging around . then we tackle him up the stairs and let him trash it all if we are out side then its a case of trying to get hold of both his hands and pray it doesnt hurt too much when he attacks etc
i think one of the hardest things for me to admit is yes now he is getting bigger i am scared of not being able to stop him causing real injurys , i mean i can cope with being punched even from behind when im not expecting it (i no longer sit with my back to him when im on the comp lol). i can cope with him spitting screaming abuse and lashing out when we are out of the house etc, what really really scares me is when he attacks some one with weapons or tries to strangle any one . we no longer sit at the table to eat, we all have trays as last time he tried to stab his brother in the hand with a knife. and no one turns there back on him when he is making art stuff as if my friend hadnt of yelled at me the last time i left him to it he would of got the scissors in my back and when i hear the youngest scream we run straight to him as jordon likes to strangle him etc. im sorry if i rambled just then but i have to ask does anyone else have this fear . i feel guilty just for talking about him like this
We're not sure where Luke falls on the spectrum, though we think he may
be mild to moderate. He says words only every now and then, he
does a bit of stimming (mostly spinning objects and pacing) especially
when he's nervous or bored, but thankfully he doesn't have any tantrum
issues or aggressiveness. The dev't pediatrician thinks that Luke
will be able to be mainstreamed into a regular classroom by the 1st or
2nd grade. We're trying to get him involved in as much therapy as
we can, though I still feel it's not enough. We live in a state
that is not terribly good for services. He's getting E.I., speech
therapy and OT. Will be signing him up for a social
skills/interaction group and Kindermusik (for dev. delayed kids) this
week (both of which last only 5 weeks or so). We're desperately
hoping to move to an area that offers ABA. The one place near
here that offers it has a lousy reputation for using negative
reinforcement and rough treatments.
Good luck and, as everyone said, stay on top of the therapies and EI. They will only help.
Kellie
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