It sounds like these teachers don't have the emotional resources or the spiritual maturity necessary to care for special needs children. Generally I advise people to be sympathetic with teachers or care takers who need to grow in kindness a bit... but in this case, I honestly think it seems like your daughter would be better off without these people in her life.
I don't know your situation... is homeschooling a possibility? I'm so sorry this is happening. It must be so frustrating.
here are the things I have listed to bring to meeting with pricipal and teacher, if I decide to go there:
the final straw was last Friday:
Another mom saw the aide put Jaden in the stroller pretty forcefully and said, "you don't tell me no, sit your butt in there"
and in the afternoon, the teacher was buckling her into her carseat and said, "wait, let me give her this. (sippy cup) That will shut her up" (I carpool wiht a friend. She was the one who told me about it)
Once on a field trip day, she did really badly. She cried lots etc. when she got home, i realized they had only given her one drink all day out of the four that I send her. I asked the teacher about it==she said they gave her water. But Jaden wont drink water, so I know she got next to nothing on a hot day in the sun. No wonder she cried alot.
Several months ago, she came home saying, "dummy" for two days. It could have been the other kids but I sensed it wasn't.
One mom testified that the teacher was caught lifting her daughter by the arm.
I have heard the teacher speaking negatively about other parents in front of their children. Ex: "His shoes are not too hot. They are too small. His mom needs to buy him new shoes" with a roll of the eyes.
A friend said she says negative things about me in front of my daughter.
A friend said when the school has special visitors, ex: fire dept, etc. the teacher and aides say "Oh, don't bother with them (meaning the children) they don't get it"
One day on the phone with teacher, she told my my daughter "gets on her nerves sometimes"
Photos of her taken by friends at school functions (I can't be at most of them) show her perpetually unhappy. with the exception of her latest school photo.
OK.......that is completely inappropriate and abusive treatment of your little one. Have you spoken with administration in the program??? I would first speak with the teacher and you can ask for an administrator to be in attendance as well. Do you have an advocacy agency in your area? I would start by trying to get the facts of what has happened. Not to say what you heard was untrue....but you need to get all the details and facts to proceed. That will strengthen your case to have your child moved.
What kind of class is this? What kind of school is this? Clearly, those working with your daughter are unqualified at best. Call an IEP meeting and insist on a trained aide. Tell them about the water, etc. This is CHILD ABUSE and is also dangerous. Emphasize the safety aspect. I think your gut is probably right. Do some research into good schools in your area where they KNOW how to deal with autism and see if you can get her into one.
There should be more than one option for preschool. Also, it may be possible that this class would be fine for your child if the teacher and staff got more training in dealing with autism. For that, you may have to call and IEP meeting and get an autism consultant put into your child's IEP. That is someone who has a solid background in working with autistic kids and can give training to the teacher and stafff on the job.It is a preschool special ed class in a public school.
i called the principal back and set up a meeting with her and the teacher. I will bring my concerns to the table then. I don't want to tell the principal all of this behind the teacher's back. She needs to be there to defend herself, if she can.
I got the numbers of a few others who migh be able to help. I left messages today. We'll see what happens.
We need more info to give more advice.Ok, so some things have happened that have caused us to want to take her out of this particular classroom. So I call the principal and she says, there is no room in the other class. If you want to move her to anotehr school, call the zoning dept. (they are no help at all)
Basically, if we want her to stay in school, she needs to stay in this class. Nothing else can be done.
What do I do now?
What types of things have happened? If you don't mind me asking. I am in a similar situation as the teacher of a child. Just wondered what you were dealing with.