Not a behavior problem in schooll | Autism PDD

I am so there with you.. My son is fine at school he is almost 4 and they keep telling me he has no issues.. Besides talking and social.. which i knew.. but even with his diagnosis they do not beielve me.. At home he is all over the place i do not understand how he does not act like this at school he never has a meltdown just once they said.. But at home he is constanly in meltdown mode if things do not go his way.. It is hard to deal with i can seem to get the school on my side and it really is discouraging.. It has been researched that they respond (Payne does this too) in different environments and with different people is seperate ways. Payne is much more compliant at school than at home...he has an easier time with meltdowns when he is at daycare as well. Makes no sense to me...it's like he has multi-personalities. He learns different things in different places too...ex - he started potty training at school- he wouldn't at home for a while though... Show a videotape of the behavior at the next IEP meeting (call one). Tell them that you need parent training in the home to deal with this so that this sort of behavior DOESN'T find its way into the school setting (a veiled threat, of course). Search "parent training" on www.wrightslaw.com

I think something to keep in mind is that the different environments/different behaviors is not something only ASD children do. It's very common in NT children as well.

Many parents can't understand why, as soon as they show up to take their child home from daycare, school, etc., or even show up at home when there's an in-home caregiver, the tears and tantrums immediately erupt as soon as: (1) the parent appears in the doorway; (2) everyone is in the car heading home; or (3) as soon as they come in the front door (MY son to a "T"!). One very wise, very old nanny I knew called it the "evening fussies." Babies, toddlers, and young children are developmentally not 24/7 social creatures. They need "down time" away from everyone else just to process all the sensory input they're being bombarded with. They work hard to be on their best social behaviors and picking up "social cues" from everything around them during the day when they are in daycare or an environment they don't completely understand or feel comfortable in. As soon as a parent or their familiar space appears, they feel safe, and can let go of the stress...in other words, crying and tantrum time. If NT children do this with regularity (which they do), then why wouldn't our children, whom have larger-than-life sensory issues on a regular basis?

Brennan flipped out any time we turn onto our street and he realized he was about home, and then when we came in the front door from somewhere he ran tantruming down the hall to his safe space, and then would calm down relatively quickly. When I applied the the "evening fussies" theory, I realized it was his way of de-stressing from what is extremely stressful - being social with others outside his safe realm. So, we found other ways for him to de-stress that work for him other than screaming and having a tantrum. Once he destresses, he's fine, and back to his usual self.

My kid is a mess in school but great at home. Go figure. My jon is 4 years old . He has pdd-nos, adhd and senseory issues. He is a happy easy goin kid unii u piss him off. He gets very very out of control , but in school they say that he has a short atttention span and that he is great. Does any one else have this problem. i know I am not crazy. Or at least I hope so. lauralee39155.3488773148

your not crazy, my daughter is the same way. I have never been able to figure it out she is hell on wheels here and has self abusive behavior and has horrible mood swings. But at school she is not near as bad. I have wondered what i have done wrong that she has such different behaviors. So i think there are evidentally lots of people that have same problem. All we can do is our best. At least we are trying