Just trying to gather opinions...
Luke's Dr's have recommended him trying meds again ( we tried Adderal last year-with no noticable changes --other than lack of appetite, and weight loss, but his behavior stayed the same)....
We've been to 5 doctors who have throughouly evaluated and spent time with Luke, and they all feel a medical trial should happen to help Luke succeed in school (he's having attention/behavior issues-mostly at school). Luke's father and myself are divorced, but are united on getting Luke the best care possible. I am usually not one to side on the meds option,,however, I feel that we should at least give it a chance to see if it could help. We've had an EKG, blood work,etc all the necessary tests to make sure no underlying medical problems may aggrivate a stimulate med...
Luke father does not want him on medication.
What are my legal rights? Can I push for medication, based on 5 medical doctors recommending it as a priority?
(We both realize that meds are not the 'cure'...but I feel that it should be an option that we explore. One day I feel ok with the meds choice, based on alot of thought and also 5 professionals recommending ,,the other days I worry about the side effects of the medicine...and I hear horror stories, and good stories about meds all the time ...)
kelly
You as the Mother have every "right" to put your son on medication. Your ex-husband would have to take you to court to try to stop you from doing this. If it is in the best interest of the child there is no issue here. You two will just have to agree to disagree and he will have to honor that and know that this is for your son's benefit.
Go ahead with what you need to do to help your son progress. Of course you know not all meds work the same and there is not a one size fits all med out there, unfortunately it is trail and error. If it can help your son succeed and you are comfortable with trying it, go ahead.
How old is Luke and how is custody split?If you are the primary parent - you have the right to unless he takes you to court to object to it. You have 5 professionals willing to document that it is in the best interest of your child. It won't be much of a contest. Now - if you were not the primary parent that would be a different ball game.Thanks for all the advice,,,
Luke is 6 1/2....and custody is split 50/50 (close to it),,we alternate weekends, and m-f I have 3 and ex has 2...
kelly
thanks again to everyone for the advise...fortunately we are going to seek help from a mediator to resolve things. I have spoken with my lawyer and he feels that this is a good step. I'll keep my fingers crossed...
kelly
Call your attorney, is their one of you that is considered the "primary" caregiver? If it's you then you can make any decisions that you want for you son without your exes consent. If the arrangement is that both of you share equally then you need to address the issue with your attorney.
I would seek the advise of an attorney in this case to find out your limitations.Do you feel that if you decide to medicate your son, he will not follow through during his time? With some medications, that just won't work.
I'd try to seek out a mediator and sit down with your ex and see if you can come to some kind of agreement.
Maybe you can get him to agree on a 6-month trial. It seems as if the 2 of you are working together for the most part. I really envy you with that.