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| Kristy and other parents of twins
Kristy I noticed you have 6 year old twin boys, one NT and the other autistic and I have a couple of questions. (this is for anyone with twins) Do you notice sometimes that it seems like you NT twin can reach the autistic one when no one else can? Or can calm him? does the autistic twin smile and make eye contact with his twin and interact with him? And plays with him while he won't play with anyone else? If they are seperated the autistic twin cries a lot, the NT one is just fine alone. I have noticed that when Nikolas (the one we think is autistic) is having a bad day or is very upset about something Andrew immediately comes and strokes his face and talks to him in their language and then he is fine. Sometimes Nikolas withdrawls from the world but Andrew brings him back. I was wondering if anyone else has noticed this with their twins. I think Nikolas would be lost without Andrew.Thanks for responding Fred. Mine squabble and fight alot too. :) I think that's normal kid behavior. I sometimes wonder if its really good for them being around each other so much too, I'm sure that's one of the reasons for the delayed speech. I'm thinking now that Andrew's wheel spinning and lining things up had more to do with following Nikolas than autism. He has completely abandoned those things now. I'm really thankful they have each other too.Both my girls are autistic, but they're truly each others best friends. They do fight and squabble a lot, but they stay with each other almost all the time, both at home and in school. They don't really calm each other down, though :) They actually occasionally work each other up, but that's just normal 4 year old/sibling stuff!
That said, both seem to get along fine without the other around. On occasions where one has been sick, and one had to go to school alone, or something, everything's gone fine. The tend to ask where the other is if they're not around, though.
Sometimes I wonder if it's really a good thing for their development that they're around each other so much, given that they're both autistic - I'm sure they've reinforced each others atypical language and social skills over the years.
On balance, though, I'm grateful that they have each other. They're really close, and I know that they'll always have each other to play with and relate to, even when their peers won't. fred39142.5771296296 |
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