Yeah, I probably should not have sent the link, but it's too late...I had already sent it. Hopefully, she won't take it the wrong way.
I agree that if the school is not doing things right, we parents have to inform them. However, there are effective ways to do this and ineffective ways. I don't see that this letter is bad in any way. Hope it helps.
My son did not have a very good day yesterday at school. Instead of explaining the story, I would like for you to read what I wrote to his "site coach" this morning:
Anthony explained to me a bit about what had occurred yesterday at school and would just like some clarification. Anthony stated he really did not do well in Mr. Lewis's class, but was doing pretty well in Ms. Whitaker's until Ms. Melissa tried to take his tickets since he did not do well in Mr. Lewis's. After that, everything went downhill and you had to call in others to remove Anthony from the classroom since he did not want to get up out of a chair. Please let me know if this is accurate…of course I left out details. If this is pretty much what had occurred, then we will more than likely need to review the positive reinforcement plan. Taking away tickets doesn't seem to be a positive reinforcement and I'm not surprised with his reaction. If he is already not having a pleasant day in one class, would taking away tickets in the next class make him realize his error and not have any reaction to it? Maybe for NT children yes, but this is Anthony. I do not agree with the way things were handled yesterday. The situation could have been avoided altogether if: a. Anthony was foretold his tickets would be taken away if he misbehaved in Mr. Lewis's classroom; b. As part of a positive reinforcement plan, his tickets should not have been taken away from him; c. the "punishment" needed to stay in Mr. Lewis's class and not carried over to Ms. Whitaker's.
As I was reviewing some of the e-mails I received from friends who have children on the spectrum, I came across the below link which talks about positive reinforcement, etc.
http://www.wrightslaw.com/info/discipl.fba.jordan.pdf
Please don't take this the wrong way, I appreciate everything everyone does for Anthony. I just don't agree with how things occurred yesterday.
Thank you.
Do you think it was too much? Especially with the link? My son does have a BIP and they need to use POSITIVE reinforcements...taking away his tickets that he earns for good behavior is not positive.
Thanks for your support!!
Well written and to the point, I don't know if I would send the link. It kind of sounds like you know more than them. That is were they could start to take a different aproach as opsed to just the letter , which sound like just a parent trying to get to the bottom of it.
Good luck.
The thing is, we as parents most times DO know more than the schools. That is NOT to say that all schools, teachers, etc. aren't qualified and trained.
I think you did a good job. Let us know what you hear back.