Stomach in knots..........

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	mine, not my sons. Parker is in the process of being evaluated for autism. We find out next week. I've been reading books, looking online, etc. about autism. He is 4 and my daughter is 8. She has ocd. It hasn't acted up in a while, months, and it's slowing creeping up again. I'm noticing that she's talking a lot, worried about silly things and whining a lot. I know it's probably because we've been talking about my ds a lot and being involved with him. I had dh take her to the movies and to play video games this weekend. I wanted her to get some special time alone. I thought it would help some. Today we went to Target and both kids were whining. My stomach was in knots! Just thinking about dd having an episode where she needed a lot of attention and ds needing help, it seemed like too much. Why can't I just give it to God and leave it with him? Why can't I just ignore the whining and not let it get to me so much. I just want my kids to be happy. It's funny, it seems like every year, around this time, my dd's ocd starts acting up and then goes away again. I know this is an autism board, but I posted here because I think it's affecting my dd too. I'm worried about making time for both of them. I think I'm going to get dd involved in some kind of sport. She went from being in girl scouts, church choir, and soccer to only now doing girl scouts. She definitely does better when she is busy. I guess I just had to get this out because I realize I'm going to need some help myself to work through my feelings and not become a big mess. Thanks for listening even if it doesn't make sense, lol. Big hugs to you. I just went through the evaluation thing. I also have another child with a disability. It can be hard. I hope all works out ok for you. Just remember to try to find time for yourself. I know I was rambling when I was getting near my dd's appt so dont worry about making sense we will figure it out. Just wanted to let you know I care.     It's common for famlies with autism also to have other neurobiological disorders among the members -- ADHD, bipolar, OCD are the MOST common.  Life with autism IS difficult.  But most of us manage to accommodate it.  YOu are just at the beginning. It does get easier, emotionally, as time goes on.  But not soon.  See if you can join an in-person support group. ONe of the side benefits to most support group is that you can meet people with kids your own kids' ages and form good social circles. (((HUGS))) My oldest son's OCD also has gone a little over the top during the ordeal with my youngest and his recent diagnosis.  I know what you mean .... I do have an appointment for my oldest next month to talk to a psychiatrist to see if his medications should be changed.  Thank you all! Today seems much better! Thanks for all the support! OCD is also a common behavior in ASD. If one child in the family has ASD, then the chances are 1 in 20 that the sibling also does. Even if it seems like a longshot, I'd take the daughter for asd testing too. It can't hurt. I know that my daughter is not ASD. She is in the 3rd grade and doing great. She has lots of friends and has never had any problem with school or making friends. She has been outgoing and loving since a toddler. Thank you though. mollyalexis: We go for our evaluations soon too. My ds will see a neurologist in March and a developmental/behavioral pedi. at some point in the summer. Their appointments are already booked out six months. It's a long wait. As I wait, I go thru periods of "feeling" like nothing is wrong, or, maybe this will get better when he's having good days (which we have) then, he starts having a hard time again. It really is such a difficult thing to understand and deal with. We also have another son who may have ADD. We thought CAPD, but he really walks a fine line for that dx. and audiologist and speech and language pathologist won't give him the dx. of CAPD (long, involved story--I'm not totally convinced its not CAPD, but CAPD also looks a lot like ADD--what a thing to sift thru) Anyway, wanted to encourage you. Keep on plugging along. It is difficult at times raising children with special needs and such. Don't be hard on yourself and relax a little (easier said than done, I know).
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