Today I took my son to the chriorpractor and he screamed last week he loved it. He would not stop crying I think its behavior to a point because when I put him in the car he laughed. . . .When he was crying he was hand flapping and so on. . .
I feel since we have started all the assessments he is getting more overwhelmed all of sudden all that he has known is changing and where as he always noticed me and waved or smiles. In the past week he not noticing me and responding much. We went for a walk on the peir and it was hard work. He used to love to walk to the end of the peir and back. . .Tantrum throwing he did not have a month ago.
In the IEP every person mentioned severly abnormal adaption to change yet they want him in four schools in the next four months. Finish out this year at one school, summer school, august maintenace and then back for the first school. They even put his goal as three transition in eight of ten trial with play with 80% accuracy. They want to shuffle him around this summer. I am looking into a school in the city I want to move to I am going to put him in it. Try to move to that city. They offer special day class but a mile from the childcare center so he would be transported and being able to keep that place as a secure place. I am starting a comission only job at a real estate company as I do have my real estate license down the road from the childcare center. Its only a few hours a day in the early evening until I b uild business.
Two months ago I would say I knew something was wrong but just minor I feel as though he's going backwards he has never not responded to me. I feel like something is going wrong and there is nothing I could do to stop it.
I called his neuro for a referral to a place that diagnosis autism since he will not give confirmed diagnosis till the test are done. He did not want to refer us there until the thest were done. While he said possible autism the educational diagnosis is moderately autism diagnosis though through the CARS assesments it rates him severely autistic. . .In the mean while I wait till august for his follow up appointment. . . .
I hoping I do good at my job because I can make a lot of money in a short time and that would fund a good intervention program.
Hi Andysmama...
I'm not sure how old Andy is...is he too old for EI? Because if not try to get their services until he gets placed in school...I know from experience it is expensive to pay for outside services, but its so crucial for them to get therapy, otherwise regression sometimes occurs...
It may be a few things, it could be some of the changes he's dealing w/ and he's having trouble focusing, ie...waving hello to you etc... Also sometimes when Nicholas is coming down w/ a cold or getting sick, he seems to regress abit and because he's just becoming verbal he can't really tell me how he's feeling...its tough, I know hon...HUGS!
But one good thing is that with therapy and intervention they usually can get right back on track...Nicholas has made really great progress thank the Lord, but he still has his days...sometimes especially w/ the hot weather we are just getting, he's cranky and he'll not want to ask for things, he just cries for them like the old days...or he won't do pee in the potty, then when he's feeling better he goes back to his normal behaviors...
I'm sorry not much help, but I'll be keeping you both in my thoughts and prayers and good luck w/ your new job!!! We're here if you need us and please keep us posted!
hugs!
Ali
Wow do I know how you feel. Regression is something all parents fear. My PDD son has regressed everytime a new therapy is added. I think that the fear of the unknown --whether it is the place or the person --becomes overwhelming to his system and he has a hard time regulating his system through the experience. The good news is that once he gets used to it (which can take sometimes a week or two), he always bounces back and surpasses what we consider "normal."
I understand your frustration and concern because this week I started doing a few activities with my son to increase his eye contact. Instead of it helping, he actually started REFUSING to look at me AT ALL. I was devestated. My sister came over to help me and said "I don't know what your talking about. His eye contact is great. He watched/looked at me the whole time I was playing with him." So clearly he was just doing this to me. I decided to fight fire with fire and so I started avoiding eye contact with him when I was playing with him. Low and behold -- beautiful eye contact. I guess the lesson that I learned with my son is that I can't push him if he is not ready and sometimes by being patient, he surpasses my expectations.
I don't know if this helps but I really want you to know that in most cases regression is only temporary.