Nicholas will just now show interest in other kids at school and outside at the park...about 6 mths ago, he only liked adults and older kids...he is greatly affectionate w/ me, dh, his sibs and grandmothers, he's becoming more so w/ his aunts and uncles...but for strangers he'll give a high five to but that's about it, you have to work for his love LOL...which is good I suppose! LOL
Lately I notice he really likes to be chased by other kids and will side glance to se what they are doing and doing lots of parallel play (he's 4 1/2) but the teacher thinks its great and is working on sharing and turn taking and says he loves it...unless its the sand table then its ALL HIS, no sharing! LOL
Oh an Amber I did the same thing...the online tests...first I was over board, and it was mild to mod pdd/nos...then I went easy...(because I scared myself!) and it was nt to mild pdd/nos...so in the end he was dx w/ pdd/nos...he is so far faily mild but no matter what the therapy helps there is a lot of progress and he does still greatly need it. I wish you the best of luck w/ finding out, I really do...no matter what he's still that same sweet little guy w/ or w/out the dx...take care!
hugs!
Ali
Ali
Gabe is very social but has the diagnosis of pdd-nos, along with overall global delays, hearing processing delay, asthma, and allergies.
Tammy
I have been searching for a name to what I've dubbed Holden syndrome for over 2 years. We first saw the sppech delay at a year, but could find no reason. So we had EI and speech therapy. His speech is much better now, about 100 or so words strangers could understand. His biggest issue now is not being able to socialize with his peers. Holden is 4, but the size of a 5 or6 year old. He plays solo great, and one on one with 10 years and up wonderfully. BUT he smiling thrusts kids his age to the ground. And he's ADHD too. he's been taking clonidine and concerta for a few weeks now and I'm seeing a good improvement. His neurologist wants him to start Abilify, but I'm leary. Nurse friends caution me that it's tough on adults, and I haven't been able to find any research literature on it's use in kids. Anyone know of a site that has any. The sites they offer us at the hospital had none.
Thanks,
michelle
Aiden just could not care less if children are there. He sometimes avoids them, but usually he will allow them to be there and play near him. He just doesn't pay attention to them or look at them. All I know is this was never an issue w/ dd. Anyone else who sees him w/ other kids mentions it, so it must be obvious. If he is just nt then I'm hoping he will cozy up to kids soon. But out of 8 tests i took online to get some ideas, all said he fit the spectrum, even when i tried to "go easy" on some of the questions. Most said moderate pdd or autism, some said mild to mod autism. I'll laugh though if he's nt and they were ALL wrong. I answered them honestly so it's not me!
Amber
I think what stumps me is I know Autism has varying degrees while my son is speech delayed, hand flaps, runs in circles and tip toes. Every now and then eats dirt. He seems to have no social problem much. He does not say many spoken words but he gets his point across. He inserts himself in a group and tries to follow along. He makes wonderful eye contact and every thing. . .
Does any one else have social kids diagnosed with autism????
Our son is sociable with adults, but not so much with children. Yesterday at playgroup he sat among the kids for the longest time yet and kind of interacted with them. He smiled at them and watched what they were doing. they're all around 2, so they don't exactly play 'with' each other ... they just steal each other's toys when they can! ;)My dd, 4 and nt, is like that though. She is way overly social. She is way overwhelming and doesn't really have conversations with others, she just talks at them. She'll go on and on about things that are important to her even if the person has no idea what she is talking about. It's like she thinks if she knows about this video game everyone else does and she'll walk up to strangers and start talking about it. It's so funny. She is also way too hyper and never can sit still. I pull my hair out over her so much. But she is way smart. So I just figure you take the good w/ the bad.
Amber
My daughter (3 at the end of this month) is very social to people she is very close to or who have something she is interested in. She does not socialize w/ other children unless there is something that they have that interests her. If you put her in a playground, she plays alone while reciting episodes of Dora or Blue. Many kids try to engage her because she is silly, but Helon just looks at them and ignores them. She just has no interest. The only person she will focus on is me because I count from 1-3 - say "go" before she goes down a ride and I clap and show excitement everytime she does finish a ride. I know that if other people would do that, she would engage them. At school, she participates among the group of children, but she doesn't engage the other children unless they have something that interest her. For instance, a few weeks ago she was hovering around a little girl trying to socialize with her when I went to pick her up from school. The teacher said the girl had a bowl of ice cream. Helon finished her bowl and was trying to get a few extra bites from the girl w/ the ice cream bowl.
I still can not have a 2 way conversation w/ my daughter. She does not respond to my questions w/ an affirmative answer, except when she is telling me "No." And many times, I can't tell if she even understands what I am asking her because she has an expressionless look on her face. So Ido believe there are autistic children who are social, but I believe that social skill is limited due to the child's language/ communication delay.
My oldest is overly social and affectionate at times! LOL He is dx with aspergers and hyperlexia.
Zachary is social with MOST everyone except kids his own age. There are some adults that he shy's away from, even though he's known them his whole life... they are just people he doesn't see very often. But he will acknowledge them by looking at them and sometimes even babbling at them. Zach even interacts with Older childeren... about 5-6... and up. Anyone younger than that is a threat to him for some reason... if you watch him you can tell he is intimidated by kids his own age. I have a great example of this from yesterday... It was my older cousins 35th wedding annaversary and her Son and his wife (who are my age) were in town from Arizona. They have a 4 year old and a new baby girl. Their 4 year old has some speech problems, but that is about it. He can talk and likes to talk, but his muscles in his mouth don't always work right and you can't understand him.... so he is learning sign also. Well he walks up to Zach and Zach looks at him and smiles and starts jibber jabbering away. Arun then asks Zach "Do you talk" very sweetly... my husband and I explain no sweetie, Zach doesn't talk yet. So Arun then starts signing to him.... well Zach doesn't know much sign yet so He didn't respond back. But right there Zach engaged Arun first... now granted Arun is a lil' bit tall for his age and therefor looks a lil' older... it was still a good interaction. Later on they were outside and Arun kept trying to play tag with Zach and Zach let him, He just didn't play back by taking turns and Chasing Arun. Now there were other lil' kids there about 18 mnths to 2 years there... Zach wouldn't have nothing to do with them... in fact He went and hid when one lil' boy came by him. Now, like I said earlier... Zach is very social with adults he knows though... He gives me, my husband, my mom and dad, his great-grandmas, my sister, and my brother kisses... he laughs with us... plays with us... He engages us more than we do him.
One thing to remember... From the age of birth untill about 4-5 years old.... even Neuro typical childeren do not INTERACT with each other.... they parrallel play.... and even that doesn't really start till about somewhere between 2-3. So lil' girls will both play with dollies... but they won't make the dollies talk to the other lil' girls dolly. Lil' boys will both play with GI joes.... but they won't make them fight each other. Like the game of tag... that was a GREAT interaction for Zach's age even if he didn't have ASD. Zach was running from Arun and playing... he just didn't understand that he had to chase Arun back and tag him. Arun was very sweet about it though. *shrugs* hope this helps some.
I have 2 ASD/PDD, whatever in the heck they want to call it, boys. One is 5 and the younger one is 2. My oldest son is amazingly social. Has always been attracted to other kids and groups, and does very, very well. He was severely speech delayed — didn't really talk until 3.5-4 yrs — and had pretty bad sensory issues, and horrible tantrums. However, it has been his socialness that has really facilitated his progression… because he wants to be with other kids and have friends, he works harder to talk and learn to behave. And his progress has been amazing. He will start K on time (we never thought it was a possibility) and we anticipate he will do fine. Now, we are just hoping his younger brother proves to be as social — it's a little too soon to tell — because being social played such an essential part in our older son's accomplishments and progress. Be glad! And good luck! Yes!!!! My son is 32 months and he is and has always been very socialWelcome to our support group JBsmom! I found this site just about a mth ago and I love it! Everyone is very helpful and supportive no matter what the situation. There is lots of info and advice. I understand as ds is 2 yrs and he fits many of the characteristics but we haven't done diagnosis yet. We are in the process. Most of my family and friends react like your dr did. He looks normal. He's fine. It's hard when you know what you know in your heart. We don't want our children to have a disorder, but sometimes it helps when we find out they do so we can understand why they are a certain way. Good luck with the upcoming appt.
Amber
hi there , jordon is fairly sociable he has good eye contact etc. as long as he knows people he will talk to them etc . in fact he gets in some peoples faces as he always thinks he is right etc . if he doesnt know that person well then he doesnt talk to them etc but he does have 2 or 3 friends that he has at school (mind u i think they are as nutty as him lol)