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WE WAITED FOR DANIEL'S READINESS WHICH CAME AT 3 AND 1/2. THIS MADE THING EASIER. IF YOU USE THE PULLUPS TRY THE NEW FEEL AND LEARN ONES. MY WIFE TRAINED HIM USEING TRAINING UNDER PANTS. I WOULD SAY GET THE DOLL THAT COMES WITH A POTTY AND TEACH SHOWING THE DOLL ON A POTTY. DR.PHIL IDEA.
My son is 7 1/2 and we finally got him starting on complete potty training about eight months ago. I really tried everything I could think of, including buying a special new toy, praising any success that I rarely saw and spanking when he was bad about the toilet, but none of that worked.
He has a diagnosis of PDD-NOS. He is verbal, but his speech sounds more like he is 3 instead of 7. He is reading (has been since 5) and I always joked he would learn to read before he was potty trained. He loves attention, even negative attention, so spanking and yelling did not help at all. The most upsetting thing to me was that I was sure he could do it. He had could stay mostly dry from age 5 and could always pee in the toilet when taken from age 3. He even pooped in the toilet for about two weeks at age 3 and then gave it up. It was a real habit with him and he just really liked having somthing under him for the bowel movements.
What finally worked was actually taking away a toy he really loved. This was a thomas the train loader set where the trains move around and switch between several different trains. He jumped up and down and ran all around when he watched this, so I knew he really loved it. He would have such a big smile and could watch it for hours if we let him.
After Christmas, I took the train set apart and put it back in the box. I put the box in our main bathroom, so he could see it. I constantly reminded him that he would need to poop in the toilet to get the train. He really liked having something under him and I tried leaving him with nothing on, but he just resisted until either night time when he wore a pull up or went in his underwear at school. After a month, I put the train on once for just a few minutes, then it went back in the box. He got to watch it again for his birthday a month later, but then it went back in the box. I finally got lucky by constantly watching him and managed to get him on the toilet when he still was going in March. It was the tiniest little bit, but he was rewarded with a whole hour of watching the train. He was really thrilled.
It was several days after that when I managed to catch him again. He was again rewarded with the train and was just so pleased. Gradually I got him to stop resisting by rewarding any sucess at all with the train. Whenever he did not make it, the train would go back in the box and I actually made him do as much of the clean up of his accident as he could manage. I would not talk to him, just point and had him wash out his underwear. I was thrilled one day when he said "I don't like to wash underwear". It was obvious that he did like it when I would not talk to him. He would have preferred the yelling, but I would remain silent and would not talk to him for quite awhile after his accidents.
Slowly he had less accidents and more success. Always he was highly praised and rewarded with his train set with any success. The trains scoop and dump beads, so bigger poops were rewarded with more beads. Major accidents always ment the set was taken apart and put back in the box. The box always went back to the bathroom for him to see.
It is November and now he says "I want to try to go poop and get the train". It has been over a month since any major accident.
I do hope our success can help someone else out there who is struggling with the same issue. Hopefully you can have success with your child at a younger age.
I have a 3 yr old son with Austim that can pee in the pot when I take him. He is having trouble pooping in the pot. I take him and nothing. So the other day I put a pull up on so he could go. When he did his business he took it off and said THANK YOU. Well know he won't tell me when he has gone he will just take his pull up off and put it in the trash or take all his clothes off and smear it on everything. We were doing so good now its like we are going backwards. I spank him when he does it and tell him if he is going to do that he has to ware a baby diper. I don't understand whats happening what did I do wrong?
My ds had major probs with using the bathroom for bm's, he'd sneak into the garden and do it there. OMG I could go on all day about the probs we had with it. He used to say - mom I really want to go in the bathroom but I just can't. I don't know why, I just can't.
He DID want to go but it took the poor fella ages to succeed. Eventualy he got constipated cos he didn't want to go anywhere anymore.. in the end he told me he was going to the bathroom and asked me to help him. We sat in the bathroom over half a day till it happen, the next day it took over three hours, it went on like that for weeks even though he's HF and in reg ed. He was 5 1/2yrs He was six before he could go 'normally' even now he has to lock the door and stay there for ages just walking round, he isn't constipated tho.
I put cute sketches on the walls of the bathroom of a kids 'going' and told lot's of potty stories. He had the whole concept and accepted it. He was ashamed of not being like everyone else in that area. Still he found it almost impossible task and clearly still isn't completely comfortable with it.
As for smearing, I'd encourage him to clean it up, again avoiding the neg reaction that he may be seeking just a very bland 'time to clean'.
Try social stories , pictures anything that could encourage bathroom awareness.
Try to keep his stress levels down, avoid shouting and getting stressed (Iknow how difficult that is)...
Start by asking him to sit for a minute - give a reward
the next day two mins - give another reward and carry on like that til he can sit without any stress for a good 10 mins. then start offering big prizes for jackport!!
This helped ds a lot but it was still a struggle. Anyway good luck.
BTW, avoid spanking, it may come back at you one day. It certainly won't help him feel more at ese about using the bathroom.
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