Hello My name is Channing. I am a female. I live in Matthews, North Carolina . I have a Disability called Autism- I have the Aspergers kind of autism. I was treated VERY MEANLY in a group home recently the group home told me these things
1. That they would not let me go to the church I want to go to
2. That they told me that I would not be able to use the bathroom because of the fact I have problems with frequent urination
3. They told me that I would not be able to use the phone- they wanted a goal because I use the phone too much
4. They told me that I could not be independent at all and that I would have to be treated as a prisoner- I have a lot of capabilitys my capabilitys is I can stay at home without my mother when she goes out of town for 3 nights, I know how to ride the City bus in the community, I know how to walk in the neighborhood and go to places like the Library and post office on my own
5. They told me that I must go to a Day program and do retarded lo Functioning contract work because of the fact I do not have a job - I have had jobs in the community before like working at Pizza Hut, working as a file Clerk at Nationsbank and working as a Janitor at a preschool
Because of this I have gone back home to live with my ageing 64 years old Mother and my ageing 68 years old dad . I also know if my parents was to die and I was liveing at home with my parents I would become a ward of the state of North Carolina and be placed in VERY INAPPROPRIATE LIVEING SITUATIONS for someone like me- I do not want to become a ward of the state of North Carolina. I AM TREATED VERY MEANLY IN NORTH CAROLINA BECAUSE I HAVE A DISABILITY CALLED AUTISM- THE ASPERGERS KIND OF AUTISM.
I am also treated VERY MEANLY by people-pen pals because of the fact I write very short letters with 2 or 3 questions ONLY. I do not have much to say about my life because I have no friends where I live - WHERE I LIVE THE PEOPLE CALL ME RETARDED ,PEOPLE CALL ME RUDE AND DO NOT SPEAK TO ME AT ALL .
I am looking for e-mail pen pals that can accept very short letters with 2 or 3 questions like for example:
1. Do you have any pets?
2. Do you like music?
3. What kind of music do you like?
If you would like to be my pen pal please e-mail me at
the e-mails listed below:
channingashbaugh@netscape.netmailto:channing79@hotmail.com
I ALSO have a biggest fear in life my with my Autism -or Aspergers Autism and me being 35 years old and my mom being 64 and my dad being 68 years old my biggest fear in life is As My parents get older I know that one day my parents are going to die. I do not want to become a ward of my state I am going to need a place to live what can I do about haveing a place to live that will include these things:
Things I Expect in my place I want to call home
1. Haveing independent time without Group home staff to be at the house when I am at the house
2. Being able to attend My Church that I want to attend every Sunday without paying for a bus
3. Being able to go to my Church Activitys like Concerts and christmas musicals without paying for a bus
4. I want a person to help me with cooking- I DO NOT KNOW how to cook at all
5. I want a person or a nest that promises to give me transportation to my church that I want to attend Every Sunday
6. I would Like someone to talk to other than Clients if I am in a nest
7. I want to go to bed when ever I want to
8. Be able to use my phone without people saying I talk on the phone too much and need a goal for useing the phone
9. Haveing activities like being able to go to:
1. Dances
2. Bingo Games
3. Going to the Movies
4. Going Bowling
5. Being able to go swimming
6. Haveing Access to the YMCA
7. Going on trips like:
1. To the Beach
2. Camping
10. Not being told that I MUST go to a sheltered workshop or day program if I do not have a Job
11. Being able to stay home if I am too sick to go to work
I am also looking for some pen pal yahoo groups I can join.
I am also looking for people that can join my yahoo groups I own.
Channing
Hi Channing,
Welcome. I will send you email, I don't mind short ones at all. I only email about once a day at the most if that is ok.
I think you should send a Private Message to gtto. She is a member of the forum who is probably the most knowledgable about resources for independent living, which sounds like something you really need.
It is nice to meet you,
Julia
Hello Channing. I'm just visiting here, but I wanted you to know about some possible resources for you.
It sounds like your group home is upsetting to you and if you feel you have been wronged, you can call your local Disability Law Center. Each state has one and it is good to have someone on your side to represent your needs.
Another option as it sounds you are needing more independence, is to register with the State Vocational Rehabilitation Group. They can help you obtain your goals that you listed, as well as offer you more support.
It should be easy to look these up online through google.com or another search site for your local area. Just a suggestion.
Best of luck to you!
Iam very proud of you. I hope you get what you want.You deserve an independ life.I am sorry i can't answer all of your questions.I would like to e-mail you .And talk with you. I have a son who is 4yrs old.I know that he will have challeges in life.I wonder if you could help us with questions.I know their our people out there .Who are very rude.I face that every day.People like you and my son.Are very special people.You have a friend here.I hope you and your parents.Have a merry christmas and a very happy new year./you will get your wish for independent life. I would be happy to exchange emails with you. I am going to look into some resources for you. I live in NC also. I would love to get to know you and your parents. I am a mother of 5 children, 3 with Autism. it breaks my heart to hear the things you have said. I have heard about the group homes here in NC and I have not heard anything good. I dont see how you could become a ward of the state at your age. It does not sound like your needs are being met. You sound like you are very capable of independent living, just need the resources to do it. As for your few questions.. 1. I have many pets, dogs, cats, a bunny, and horses 2. I love music, it helps me calm down sometimes 3. Ilike almost every kind of music You have come to the right place for friends. you will find plenty here. Venus
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