They MUST provide transportation to school, even if they have to send Bailey his own private bus. Call the school and ask for information on the incident. And incident report HAS to be written up if there was something that went wrong. Even if there wasn't, call and IEP meeting to get Bailey his own personal aide on the bus. Clearly, he needs protection and an eye witness. The school CANNOT offer transportation to all other kids and eliminate transportation for Bailey.
My K daughter just came home and informed me that Bailey my PDD-NOS child has been kicked off the bus today. She said that Bailey was sitting by this friend(who we are having MANY troubles with). This friend gave him a rubber band and Bailey started shooting people with it.
My daughter said that at drop off this morning Bailey was the last to get off and that the bus driver was yelling at him and told him he was no longer allowed to ride??? Bailey came into breakfast crying and very upset abt everything.
I dont know what to do-I havent heard from anyone yet at teh school-but will prob here it from the bus driver thsi afternoon when Bailey gets dropped off. Can they kick him off the bus just boom like that?
He has been doing SOOOOOOOO well at school with behaviors and the interventions he is getting. But there is nothing about transportation in his IEP-I guess this was only a matter of time, as he recieves no interventions or help on the bus-and especially if this same kid is on the bus with him. Its a problem at school and recesses-no wonder it is a prob on the bus too-but agn there is nothing on his IEP abt it.
What can I do-what are Baileys rights regarding this. There is no way I can transport him every day to and from school-thats money we dont have!!!!Who do I call in this-the case manager-or bring it up to the principle?I would like to know what Bailey rights are though before I call.....
ANY help would be sooo appreciated!
Love ya,
Tammy
Tammy
Speaking as an ex school bus driver, (big bus and special ed. bus) and a granddaughter almost 9 with autism. 1st NO bus driver is allowed to yell at a student ever. 2nd Selena is on a special ed bus since day 1 in early intervention, shes now in 3 rd grade. It is in her IEP also she wear a harness, for safty, she can undo a seat belt in a second. We had a driver one year that wrote her up for singing to loud and would not be quite. I told him Shes autistic and wont be totally quite, he said he couldnt concertiate of driving if sho was so laoud. The next week we had a new driver! Hany in there, be firm, get it in his IEP, with special ed bus. Much less stress. Skeeter
THe first day of kindergarten, my son went on the minibus as usual (he'd had a minibus for his 3 years in preschool). He went to his seat and I entered the bus to click his seatbelt on, as usual. This was our good-bye ritual. I had forgotten that three years earlier I had gotten official permission to do this and that the kindergarten bus was from a different company and I did not have permission to do this. The bus matron came at me! She looked like she was going to attack me. I backed down, but by then, my son was kicking and screaming a causing a BIG fuss. He wasn't letting the matron buckle him in. Of course not, HE thought she had ATTACKED me. The bus driver WROTE HIM UP!!! And this was a special ed bus. I got the principal and the head of transportation on the phone and told them in no uncertain terms what had happened and why. I told them that this was a SPECIAL ED bus and that any personnel working it should understand special ed needs or the bus company should assign them to a regular ed bus. Well, no one wants to be a matron to 30 regular-ed banshees, so that matron shut her mouth and never picked on me or our son again. I haven't had a single problem in the past 11 years with the bus. Of course, there is no rule that requires that bus personnel be trained, but if my son is being treated poorly because of his disability, that can be a Civil Rights complaint and THAT could cost the Bus Company and School BIG BUCKS.THanks Tzoya-I just got off the phone with the spec ed tecaher and told him all the problems that DONT go reported-like waiting at the bus stop(I HAVE to wait with him or there will be something done-be it flowers trampled on bothering others etc)and in teh morning off the bus when there is NO supervisison-incidenst happen there too....
He said he is going to get with the principle and discuss these things and then get back with me-he had NO idea these other things went on and always wondered why the problems at school-but not on the bus. I guess I just didnt know things could be done abt it until now....IF these strategies that we come up with dont work-I will be requesting the mini-bus for him....for sure. I never knew this was an option or I would have requested it at the get-go, but I am willing to work out some strategies first and see if they help.
So Thank you Tzoya-you are alwasy soooo helpful {{HUGS}}
LOve ya,
Tammy
Our district gets aides for the buses FIRST because they know they can be held responsible for safety issues on a moving vehicle and the last thing they want is the headache of that. In fact, kids in special education can get a special education bus written into their IEP's. My son has always been on that sort of mini-bus. Much, much less goes on on those buses. See if you can get that into his IEP. I would also ask to see the write up from the bus incident and then write a rebuttal letter telling the school district and the bus company that you will hold them both responsible should anything every happen to your child on the bus. If all else fails, you may want to consider transporting him to school yourself. It's a pain, but the last thing you want him to learn are the BAD social skills (not to mention safety issues).
Thanks Tzoya for responding.
I called the school and come to find out it was just a written warning.......that NEXT time was talked abt being kicked off :( I talked to the spec ed teacher and he said that he would talk with the bus driver to see to it that Bailey doesnt sit with this friend anymore-that a seat by himself upfront would be more appropriate. If it continues to be an issue we will have a meeting. Usually one warning is all it takes for Bailey to keep himself okay, but we will see I guess....
I saw the incident report from the bus driver when he came home today and it said that he was shooting some girl with the rubber band.
But it is just a warning-but now I know if they try to kick him off in the future that they at least have to provide something for him. Thanks Tzoya.
I soo agree with what you are saying Tzoya-but I dont know what to do here. I have sternly requested an aide before and District became involved and it was a HUGE deal and Nightmare-I lost it, the district lost it and it was a mess. The aide thing is truly discouraging at this school-I wont get one -I know it beyond a doubt. All last year I was pressing for one and I just dont know if Im ready to go down that path agn with them-but no-it is just like you said-then I am basically waiting for something else to happen.....:(
Whe I was concerned abt his safety last yera I requested one and that led to the distrcit getting involved questioning EVERYTHING down to his diagnosis-so I no doubt think that would come up agn. It was a nightmare-you may remember all my posts abt it last year.
School is going so well now-that i dont know if I want to rock anything again. OUr whole family was turned upside down as everyones stress levels went up through the roof and Its just now getting back to normal ard here........
But you are right he learned that rubber band deal on the bus from this "friend"he needs something-but I dont know what........woudl you suggest the spec ed bus instead, it goes right by our house everyday-I am thinking that would go over more with the district instead of the aide? But I dont know if I can request something like that?
I knwo when I talked to teh Autism sec of teh state and otehr Moms in this state that the state just doesnt have the aides it needs-so they might be putting up a stink abt the aides because they seriously cant get one.....????
What do you think?Suggest the other bus?
Love ya,
Tammy
DON'T WAIT FOR THEM TO KICK HIM OFF! Call an IEP meeting and get an aide for him on the bus. The bus is a social stew and your son is liable to learn BAD social skills on the bus. Where do you think her LEARNED about the rubber band. NT kids can do naughty things and get away with it because they understand stealth. But ASD kids don't. What's more, they're likely to end up holding someone else's bag and get blamed, too. Get an aide.PS -- I would have HIT THE CEILING that I wasn't notified of this incident IMMEDIATELY without having to ask. Imagine if your daughter had not told you. You wouldn't have known and you wouldn't have been ABLE to ask for an aide until something REALLY bad happened. Bailey is now establishing a reputation as a "bad" kid and he can't help it since he's being left to his own, poor social devices.In my son's IEP, we have it where he receives adaptive bus transportation. These are the buses that special ed students ride and there is a monitor on there. That way the bus driver is aware of his disability and they can't kick him off and the monitor can help with disipline problems while the bus driver concentrates on driving. If it were a safety issue, that would be different. Call transportation and tell them your concerns, then get it written in IEP for adaptive services. This will advoid any other future problems.They can always separate them, too. Sometimes, these things can turn into discrimination issues due to his disability,but for the most part adaptive transportation will suit him best. WOW! They actually did something right for a change.I met with the spec ed teacher and behavior specialist at school and we decided on a reward system for Bailey before we seek other solutions.
Bailey will recieve a token /cert every instance he rides and keeps his hands to himself. He is loving this!!! He is to acumilate 5 then turn them in to the Principle for a prize. He is also loving this and he has been quite better on the bus.....LOLOLOL
He also get a seat by himself-which he is thrilled abt and is a constant jabber in the bus drivers ear-LOLOLOL. She called me and was just amazed abt how knowledgeable Bailey is in different subjects-disasters, bees, weather and science things etc-LOLOLOL
Im just thrilled that disciplining Bailey is not their answer this time-LOLOLOL
I just hope this lasts-LOLOLOL
LOve ya,
Tammy
this sounds so familiar in many ways. First of all, they are right about calling an IEP meeting. Here where I live there is a place called Nevada Pep. These are people who are advocates for you and your child. They come to your IEP meeting and let me tell you it works. I was fighting with the school district when my son was diagnosed with autism and the case worker for the school didnt feel he was "autistic enough" to be put in the strategies classroom. I went out and got the advocate she showed up with me and I fought and fought until finally they gave me what I wanted.
I know all about fighting with the school district and let me tell you this...you can appeal the IEP, you can go over their heads to the next step up and I forget what that is called and the school district hates that. They will give into your aid because here they dont like to do aides either because it costs them money.
Another thing, do you have special ed transporation where you live? We have it here and the bus comes directly to my house and picks up my son. there are other kids on the bus who have disabilities as well and the bus drivers are trained for certain circumstances because my son used to take his shoes off and throw them at the bus driver. The bus driver would take his shoes away so he couldnt do that anymore. Either way, dont stop fighting for your son. I had to learn that early because the school district will put up a fight everytime. If you have to go above their heads and appeal the IEP then do it.
I hope things get better but he is a special circumstance and I would be so upset if they were going to kick my son off the bus and not tell me first. They are also right about picking up other children's bad behaviors. My son is a mimicer and he would come home saying things that he picked up from other students around him. See if there is a special ed transporation bus for your son.
Cassie
they are trying to kick my son off of the bus to he rides a special needs bus and he has to ride in a carseat but they cant keep him in it and today he kicked and punched anyone who tried. His morning bus driver has never had problems like this only in the afternoons I am fightin this it is redicouls he is 4
Thanks guys-yes I was very in awe, I guess is the word-LOLOLOLOL
I think alot of it was that they consulted the behavior specialist before hand-which they seldom do......sigh....but they did this time-YEAH!!!!!
Ill just have to make sure she IS invited to ALL future IEP meetings-eh? ;)LOLOLOL
Love ya,
Tammy
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