Be careful with specialists, they can go either direction! And the natural assumptions that judge works with usually holds more weight.
Find a lawyer!!!
And really look at things clearly. Why do you want full custody? If children are raised at yours and dads, that is a routine they coudl get used to (NOT saying good option, but you have the onus as to why it is not good and beh prob usually don't cut it) Crts may see it as you have routine by going to dads on set days.
Bring up lack of communication and unwillingness with drs appt ect. Could make case that due to the difference of opinion sole custody should be awarded... but that would be very tricky... need a lawyer to balance the probabilities.
If he won't talk... start a communication journal between you, dad, school, therapists, etc!! This gets dad getting same info as you *but* not from you. School gets a feel for you both as parents and it keeps it more factual rather than mud slinging matches since you both will know professionals are reading it.
hi nikki i just wanted to let u know that im thinking of u and sending possitive thoughts ur way , if u know what i mean xxxI am just going to ask once more in case anyone didn't see my original post months ago. I am going through a terrible custody dispute, and the hearing is finally scheduled in less than a month. Anyone have any advice? I am seeking full custody of my twins. The father has them currently 3 days a week, and due the their problems, I think it would be best if they are not being tossed about so much. We don't work together well at all, as he won't discuss even very basic things with me. I have honestly tried to make this work. Anyway, does anyone have experience with this? Or does anyone know of any resources regarding custody and autism?Hi Nikki,
First i want to say how awful i feel for you, this must be eating away at you. Second, i want to apologize because i have no experience with this what so ever and i'm sure someone will pop up that knows a few things but may i make some suggestions. Do you're kids see a therapist or does the school system have a autism specialist that could put in writing how the need of consistency is vital and the need for special services is imminent ? could you pediatrician perhaps write a letter on your behalf? is it documented that your soon to be ex is against your children recieving proper treatment, has he ever verbally disagreed with a dr or school official that clearly knows there are issues with your sons? perhaps this would be a good place to start..... I'm sorry i don't know much about the situation but know that you'll be in my prayers..
I can't help you there either, but I know 'someone' should be able to come along here with about 10 different links to helpful sites! I'm sorry you're going through this and will keep you and your boys in my prayers as well.
Kellie
Well, the school doesn't have an autism specialist, which is part of my battle. The school distrist just south of me has one, and is a wonderful school district, so I am hoping to get my kids into that district. I am going to make some calls this week, though to get statements fomr as many teachers, etc as i can. I do have one big thing in my favor. There is a specialist that observes in their preschool, and he is coming to court to testify. I can't imagine that my ex would be able to find anyone that would testify that the situation they are in right now is good for them. But I don't know how that works. Maybe if you pay experts they will testify to what you want them to? I don't know. I hope not!