Posted: November 15 2009 at 1:55pm | IP Logged

   Our son has autism which my wife and i have coped with, for the most part reasonably well except for two major problems.Don't get me wrong there has been issues many many....... like the time he left the house naked in the middle of the night in sub zero temperatures!!..

           when pooping our son seems to need to go in his hand then put it in the toilet............ this makes for quite a mess..........very hard to get the smell from his hands before school........if you make too much of a fuss about this he will simply not go at all........i mean for days.......

          second problem is he pees on the floor because it appears he is too lazy to go to the tiolet........he'll wake up walk 2 ft and pee on the floor instead of going 15 ft to toilet......... he knows its bad .... you ask him where pee goes and he will tell ... in the toilet........... this is solved if i wake him up first then he goes to the bathroom.....but i leave too early for that most days and my wife needs her sleep......... whats that saying happy wife happy life!!... as i work alot my poor wife is left with dealing with these issues on her own so any help would be greatly appreciated..

Posted: November 16 2009 at 4:20am | IP Logged

Im not sure if I can suggest anything helpful to you as you have probably tried everything. Im not sure making him clean it up will make a dfference as it clearly doesn't bother him. My daughter is at and has regressed again with toileting and it wouldn't bephase her to have to clean up as she likes handling it.

The best thing for her are rewards for the positive behaviour and not making a big deal about the negatives.  We have a first then schedule. First poos in toilet then olives(with pictures) Olives are her favourite food. We make a big fuss when she pees in the toilet and tell her she is a good girl. I think some of her peeing and poioing around the house is attention seeking- she enoys seeing us upset and thinks its funny. Hoowever she enoys pouring things  and has in the past poured her own urine.Would your son wear a disposable gove do you think or does he actually need to feel the faeces. The thing is to try and work out why he does the behavoours, attention seeking, sensory , scared of the poos splashing in the toilet. Good luck, its a hard one to deal with I know.

Posted: November 16 2009 at 4:42pm | IP Logged

     well nick loved that reaction so much he did this for 3 months.......we had to convince everybody involved with nick to ignore it and praise him when he had dry hands......thank god it finally took.......nick is a very handsome and good natured young man but he used up some of the good will he has built up over the years on this one!

        We were actually going to try disposable glove tonite! hope he will keep them on!

Posted: November 16 2009 at 4:48pm | IP Logged

rottne,

how did you convince them to ignore it?

Posted: November 16 2009 at 5:01pm | IP Logged

hi norway mom

              actually nick will pee in the day as well........our basement is finished with a tv etc... well nick loves this room to watch his videos without any body bothering him [ like his brother]   .. there is no bathroom down there so it is a long trek to the upstairs for a bathroom break so the odd time he will go on the floor..........Now my wife just told me the other day that he won't do it when he knows i'm around and keeping tabs on him...........the main reason for this is that if i see pee nick is gone from that room immediately no questions or second chances.......Nick difinitely know its bad .. i caught him in the act once and it was if he was caught red handed with the crown jewels!