Posted: November 06 2009 at 1:03pm | IP Logged

This is a tough situation.  It sounds like your girlfriend is already deeply enough in denial that she is refusing to hear your concerns.  The alternatives seem to be (1) doing nothing (and I agree with another poster that there are enough indicators here that an evaluation is called for), in which case badly needed interventions might be delayed, or (2) getting an authority figure she is more likely to listen to (day care teacher, doctor, etc.) to raise the same issue in a manner that does not show that you were in any way the impetus for it.  Like it or not, this would mean sneaking around behind her back. 

Expect her to hit the roof if she learns you arranged this, even if it the result is that her child gets therapies he needs and would not otherwise have received.  People who are in denial often see those who try to snap them out of it as betrayers.  It may destroy your relationship with her.  It is still the right thing to do.  Sorry to give you the bad news.

Posted: November 16 2009 at 9:49pm | IP Logged

UPDATE:

As things turn out, she had him already scheduled for an appointment on another non related issue, and she bought it to her doctor’s attention. He said he doesn’t think he has it, but that if he did it would be a mild case of it. He said that if she wanted to make sure they would schedule an interview with a specialist who would asses him. She opted for the next available appointment. He told her to watch him carefully and take notice of everything he does. She admitted at first when i told her, she was taken back, and sort of angry, but she began to look up the symptoms and become more familiar with the disorder. She says that she has been worried about it ever since i bought it to her attention. I don’t know when the appointment is, but when everything is assessed i will inform u guys on the results. Thanks everyone for your support and help