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Dad2Luke&Alan
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ConcernedMale wrote:
Thanks for the video jaxident. It was very informative
and well put together..
Last Update, i think:
Well the appointment just occurred about a week ago. They
took him to the specialist (i couldn't attend) and they
accessed him. Overall (from what she told me), the Dr
said she didn't have any information for her. Said since
he was "so" young his social skills aren't developed
enough to say (he's 3, turns 4 in aug). BUT, she told her
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Both my kids were diagnosed before age 3. One is PDD/NOS (and is sufficiently NT that the school refuses to qualify him), it is possible to tell in young kids.
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MelissaSmith
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If he's been diagnosed with a delay, that is a very logical explanation for signs of Autism. Many different issues share symptoms with one another and some are even related. For example, if a parent has ADHD that raises the statistical chance of having a child with Autism and the 2 disorders can share certain symptoms. The exact relationship is unknown but there are other examples. An Autistic child can display symptoms that appear to be OCD or Bipolar disorder.
That's why it's important for a doctor who specializes in developmental disorders to evaluate him, rather than a friend of your mother who hasn't actually met him. If I were your girlfriend, I'd be upset too. I know I love how someone who hasn't seen my son in ages and has no clue what his doctor, teachers, and I are even doing suddenly reads a magazine article and feels the need to tell me what crazy diet I need to put my son on immediately.
I don't mean to be harsh, but I bet this is how your girlfriend feels too. She doesn't need you to be one of those people. Seeing as her son has been diagnosed, the most helpful thing you can do for her and her son is too learn as much as you can about that diagnosis so that she doesn't always have to educate you and you'll know what to expect and how to help out and be supportive. Also, once you've become an expert on that condition if you still have concerns that he may have Autism you will have a lot more credibility and you'll also have the benefit of having proved through your effort how much you really care about her and her son.
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ConcernedMale
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I don't think he's been diagnosed with a specific delay,
i know its probsably some deeper issuses that the doctors
are hesitant to say; but judging be reading things i'm
guessing this is how it works sometimes when the person
isnt noticeably delayed. The friend of my mother didnt
evaluate him, my mom just pointed out some issues to her
about my gf's sons behaviors; behaviors i was unaware of
until she pointed them out. My moms friend has a son with
autism and told her to watch out for the warning signs.
My mom told me, and i looked it up, and the symptoms and
signs seemed to fit. I wasn't trying to suggest her to do
anything other than be aware of the signs and get him
checked. She didnt tell me he was diagnosed with Delay
until i informed her of my concerns. While reading on the
net,one of the things that stuck with me was "EARLY
PREVENTION". I didn't want it to be too late, i guess i
got a little paranoid.(He is 3 almost 4) I was just
concerned, and if i have a concern i'm not gonna just let
it go unnoticed. I would rather her be upset with me for
informing her, than to be upset for me not. When your on
the inside looking out, its not always as obvious. This
is her first child, and oldest, so i don't think she
knows a whole lot in conjunction to milestones, and what
to expect. I'm always gonna be there to support her, i
was just showing my concern. In no way am i claiming to
be an expert, but i don't think that means i shouldn't be
vocal about my concerns. No one here is an expert (i dont
think,lol) but that doesn't mean they shouldn't give
their opinion and adivce. I'm trying to learn as much
about it, but its hard when the partner involved is in denial about the whole ordeal. But i know we will be
FINE. And btw, i proposed to her on Christmas, we're
engaged to be married in 2011! 
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Congratulations on the engagement! I think you will be a great step dad.
Harriet
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