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With all do respect Jess, this experience has been
something I hope you do not have to experience with your
own family because it is more traumatic than one can
imagine.
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madderakka
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I don't think anyone is trying to downplay your emotions Lori.
I have had two friends who were investigated: one's school reported because of something said-she never found out exactly what- and the second was actually investigated because she was raped and the idiot cop felt that she was an unfit mother by being raped in her home while her child was there (it was a person she knew, not a stranger). I truly do understand the trauma involved.
But, as others have said, the school employees have a choice and it's often a difficult one. Many would hesitate to ask the adult to clarify 1) because if the adult is abusing the child, they will only lie if asked and then you have tipped them off so that they can hide it better and 2) because it could cause the adult to abuse the child even more, or kill them in retribution. It does happen every day.
So, we are simply saying that while you have a right to be angry, please realize that unless the school has been openly hostile in the past, they were most likely looking out for your child's welfare. You have a right to your feelings and to have an advocate with you. I am not sure that you can ever find out who reported you as most states protect the identity of the reporter.
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JessicaO
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Wow, Lori. I in no way was trying to 'downplay' your emotions or experience whatsoever. I was merely expressing what it is like to be on the other side, and to be the actual person reporting something, as it seems that I am one of few here who have unfortunately had to do so. Sorry if my message was misconstrued.
And also, in regards to trying to find out who made the report: the legal system cannot disclose that information. That's something that is guaranteed to people who are mandated reporters, so as not to put them into situations where a family or individual targets them.
I hope you and the school district are able to find a way to reconcile what has happened in order to provide your little guy with the best opportunities out there. Best of luck.
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