Posted: November 02 2009 at 7:02pm | IP Logged

OK, now that I got your interest in this post with the title ... here's my question:

how do you all manage to maintain any kind of sex life with your partner?  I have been married for many many years and with two sons on the spectrum and two NT teens, sleep hours are all over the place in this house ... if I manage to outlast all of them at nighttime and stay awake past all of them, I'm either so tired or my husband is already asleep or it's morning again!!     Daytime fun is typically out as hubby keeps long hours at work and we homeschool so kids are always around!  

How do you all manage?  or should we simply forget about having regular sex?  I can't get away for weekends as we have no help from anyone, no relative anywhere near us (not that I would trust any of them with my boys anyway)  I can't lock a door or my boys have a fit trying to unlock the door (they have an issue with all doors having to stay opened at night!)

Help!!  (sorry if this post offends anyone)

Claire in Canada (with sex on her mind obviously!!)

Posted: November 02 2009 at 9:05pm | IP Logged

BWHAHAHA.  We don't manage.  Hehe.  Well, we have to make elaborate plans and set alarms so we can meet at the witching hour (3am) before he goes to work.  I too, have two spectrum kiddos and two NT teens roaming around this commune.  Sex.  Yeah, Claire.  We always joke that the only sex we have now is "Hallway Sex" were we "shoot the finger" (crass, I know) to one another as we pass in the hallway. 

Erin...from Northeastern PA who may set the alarm for 3am tonight. 

Peace

Posted: November 03 2009 at 7:56am | IP Logged

I think that is the main problem ... co-ordinating between the two boys' very different sleeping patterns:  one goes to sleep at a relatively decent time (by midnight anyway most nights) and the oldest, I can typically get him quiet by 3 A.M.  By 6 AM or so, the youngest wakes up and he is noisy, singing or humming at the top of his lungs.

My NT teens look after themselves for breakfast but hubby usually wants me up to say goodbye for the day (he leaves for work around 7 AM most mornings)  I then start my day and hubby doesn't get back home until 8:00 PM or so.

I may have to borrow your "setting-the-alarm" trick, Yepper ... I may not be completely awake for it but at least it will be a start!  

Thanks for sharing, both of you.

Claire (looking for the old alarm clock, for which I have had no need for so many years!!!)

Posted: November 03 2009 at 9:22am | IP Logged

Yeah, umm...I am not sure how we got pregnant this time around actually given our current state of affairs (or no affairs as it would happen).  I was looking for some divine answer, but I am going with the toilet seat theory.  That might keep me sane.  It's either that or I have to look to the mailman

Posted: November 03 2009 at 9:30am | IP Logged

camusa:

You had better make sure that the Pretty Red Haired Girl doesn't see this or you may have effectivly shut off that source for ever

JUST KIDDING!

Posted: November 03 2009 at 12:14pm | IP Logged

Lucky:

It matters not.

The well doth run dry

Posted: November 03 2009 at 6:31pm | IP Logged

Maybe everybody here ought to remember what turned them onto their "Love of their Life" in the first place.

My sweetie talked to me before I spoke to her. I still see her as the beautiful hottie from then.  She still is 17 years after that day.  After all of the sh*t that people in life, not to mention people who wear our shoes, experience, it is something to remember, the original things that mattered then. If it worked then, it'll work now.

The Formula is; Spark+Desire+Availability+Mutual Response=Opportunity.  The part that is missing is a comfortable accomodation. Take the opportunity and then make accomodations, comfortable or not. We have had to resort to the floor in the bathroom when we were on vacation with him.

Just remember, that it is IMPORTANT to still be close to the person that is the reason that you are parents.